Not the store, although that'd be most impressive...


Anywhoo, the following is a collection of random thoughts, bear with me and please help as I'm a complete n00b:

Been hanging with some chick I just met from a uni party the past couple of days, we got along swimmingly. I found out however that she has a boyfriend (which sucks balls). I'm the sort of person that wouldn't do anything more, it's not fair to people. I think it's fair to say at this point that as this was a party, I was very drunk and normally I don't talk to girls as i'm your average chump. However, I thought "well, I'm having fun chatting to her, might as well stick around". I mean, you sometimes hear of these stories of the girl breaking up later with the dude and then turning to someone else they know, right?

It's just, and it may be my own twisted interpretation, that she kinda digs me too. I mean, she was going along with what I was doing without any rejection. She'd follow me around, we went for a walk away from the party and such for a private chat, and before I knew she was already taken I was trying to physically escalate things with no rejection (hand holding, arms round and stuff). Once in the night she told me I looked gorgeous. We played drinking contests at the party and she cheered me on and "carried my flag" if you will, helping me out and stuff, which was awesome.
I'm just confused. I don't even know if I came across as a stalker or what, maybe she was thinking "go away!", you know, that weird touchy feely guy. Another dude was talking to her as well (he was MASSIVE buff) and she was courteous to him but later told me she thought he was weird, which was refreshing as those sort of dudes would usually clean up with women. That makes me think that the same thing could be going on but I hope not. Whenever she did mention her boyfriend, it was in a negative light, like how he was mean and stuff. I just don't want to be trying when I shouldn't, and I certainly wouldn't want to be 'the other guy'.

So I have a chance to continue this as she added me on facebook on her phone whilst we were talking. However, I haven't said anything yet as I'm confused. If she thought I was a stalker this would confirm it. If there's no point in persuing it then maybe I shouldn't. I don't even know if she was as hot as what I thought she was anyway, being drunk and all. Having never had a girlfriend, I kinda expect to wait until I can get a hottie otherwise people will think i'm lame. Yes, I care about what people think... So, what should I say if I did say stuff?

Please help, it's tearing me up and I really hope that I'm not stressing when I really shouldn't be bothering. Advice please?

Stupid women.

PEOPLE SHIT JUST GOT REAL.

I decided to talk to her. She told me that she found out today her BF was cheating on her for three months. I can't believe this crazy coincidence/luck.

So, it looks like there is a possibility there now. So I need serious help turning this into something. I don't know if she's broken up, and I don't think so, but it's certainly a good position, right? Is there some sort of routine I can do?


Please help, it's urgent!!!

Sounds like you have one-itis. If so I think you are in trouble.

I notice you didn't actually say if she had broken up with bf or even if she planned to. You would expect so but sometimes they stay.
Anyways the way I see it one of two things are going to happen here:

You guys hit it off after her bf out of the scene, keep building the chemistry and live happily ever after.

bf moves over and you start up then she realises you are just a rebound.


I suspect situation number 2 is most likely as surely its too soon for anything healthy to build (and you don't want someone who has serial bf's anyway). But mainly because she probably already suspected something was up with current bf and identified you as a potential way out.

This can be good or bad depending on your view but if i were you just ride it out and see where it goes. Don't get one-itis and don't get sucked in to something too deep too quick. You don't want to be somebody's back up plan.

Yep I agree. I get terrible one-itis naturally because i'm an AFC, and it's like "hey something seems to be actually happening for once!!". I mean, it doesn't mean I'm not gaming other chicks like some people do. I also think I should mention that this is literally over the course of about two days, so it's no different really to meeting a chick in a club or something, I'm just looking for the Day 2.

I mean, I believe the boyfriend's gone because her facebook status now says single, but I guess it's never that simple.

I'm confused; you say I should take it slow, right? That makes sense in a way as jumping from one dude to another within the space of a couple of days seems pretty quick, right? But also, you need to capitalise quickly on the attraction otherwise other dudes will get there first. So do I try to organise a catch-up or leave it for a while?

yo, stop thinking of yourself as a stalker and start thinking of yourself as a pua, or rafc at least. It doesnt matter if you go too far, style's thing is to always go 20% further than you thought you could. you probably didnt think she'd hold your hand or whatever, you probably could've gotten a kiss if you had tried it. just go for it man, there's nothing to lose, like you said, you met this girl 2 days ago or whatever. she obviously wants something, get yours or move on. you already identified that you're susceptible to oneitis and called yourself afc, take that knowledge and look at what a pua would do instead. game other girls like you said, that's certain, but keep an emotional distance from this interaction, it's too soon and the circumstances kinda suck. pick your balls up and get your game on,

get it!