This is a problem I had with my previous GF.

It became obvious that she never wanted to accept MY invitations to do anything - whenever I asked she was negative to the idea and she liked to control the situation by deciding when we met.

Why ? I honestly don't know. Maybe she likes to plan way ahead so she controlled the progress the Relationship went at.

How do you prevent this ? I think my other thread on Sexual Tension will help, but I think there may be more to it.

When she said 'No' consistently, I raised it as an issue. I think I needed to be much clearer however, state how it was unacceptable to me and I was wasting my time with someone who doesn't want to spend time with me ? I don't want to come across as needy or insecure, and yes I wanted to sleep with her.

How do you overcome this ? Have to make her practically begging for my time ? When she eventually does try to organise something, say no ?

When you plan something don't ask for her input. You don't ask a girl if she wants to see you and where. You tell her, i am going to be at blah blah blah at blah blah blah time. I will see you there.

You are giving her the control. Stop doing that. She says no because you are giving her room to say no. Try ignoring her texts for long periods of time then finally responding with short one word responses "eh", "sure"... something that i learned that really ticks girls off and puts you in control is saying "eh, whatever". Take lots of pictures if she doesn't show up with you having a good time with your friends and other girls. You can't act like you care that you never see her. Let her know that there are plenty of other girls out there for you.

She needs to work for you. You are currently working for her. talk dirty to her on the phone, turn her on; get her to admit that shes wet and wants you. Then tell her your going over. Before she can say no, hang up. Don't respond to texts saying "i don't think you should"... just show up. Don't just stalk her house waiting for her to come home either, that is creepy. You gotta tell her your going over not ask.

I think this is a quote from David DeAngelo.

"If you wanna be with me baby thats fine, if not, move aside there is a lovely young lady right behind you."

Meditate on that.