Hey guys, how should i react to a girl that is giving me IOIs, ie: kino/smiling/eye contact/compliments. I was at the beer pong table and this girl who gave me crazy eye contact/smiles when i first walked in came over and hugged me asking to be my beer pong partner. I said yeah and told her to write down our names. She then just drifted off and then came back later putting her arm around me and smiling, but not really saying anything. It was just weird...i didn't know how to react to the IOI and then the lack of it all at once.

Well when she drifted off, was she going around to other guys?
Some girls are just social butterflies, or want attention.

Sounds like this one is gaming you!

at some point you gotta make your move. That's way too many IOIs without action.

tease, kino, build attraction, ISOLATE!

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I honestly didn't see her over other guys, she'd just go to her friends and stare at me or something. I guess i have to be more aggressive, i mean she's a banging girl with no boobies unfortunately, but has a great athletic body. I guess I could ask her if she plays sports and go from there. We'd basically just be next to each other and just stare at each other with smiles haha, it was fun and a confidence builder for sure.

Well, you shoulda teased her when she came right up to and asked to be your partner. Like ask her If she's always that forward with guys she has a thing for. Then Smile, start kino, compliance tests...ect

Well i mean...the list was long. So she came up to me and gave me a hug and said she was leaving so she couldn't play and i just said that's fine..and in about 10 min she came back to say "nvm lets play, i'm not leaving" ..in which case i just said you left so i got someone else which i didn't b/c i was busy with my jungle juice, but i thought it would be appropriate to show that i just don't wait around. I really gotta be more engaging i guess, would u guys have done/said anything differently?

There is no perfect moment, you have to make that moment happen!

Go after the girl next time, sounds to me like you just didn't do anything to take it farther than an opening.

I have to say I am upset right now, ops like this should never go unclosed.

look, forget the small talk, she has already taken you passed that point with all the kino. "Do you like sports," is an opener, she has already opened you.

here's what I would have told you to do:

she puts her arm around you and asks to me your partner:
you say "No, I want to win!" *small smile*

she wanders:
you DHV, talking to friends you know and meeting new ones (guys and girls). Talk shit at the beer pong table. celebrate loudly when you win, or make shots.

She comes back:
you say "You again, your like the president of my fan club" *smile*
then continue teasing and kino escalation.

She hugs you to say good bye:
make her give you a kiss on the cheek

learn from this mistake, next time you won't let the girl get away right?

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"50 below, knee deep in the snow" - Don Magic Juan

yeah, im sure ill see her at a frat party at some point. I guess i just gotta dig into her with talk. Thanks guys haha.

Talk, talk, talk, talk, talk....its all about talk.