I have read a lot about picking up, but i have not practiced enough in field yet. But i want to change this now. I have picked up pretty successfully a while ago, but loosing out because of LMR. I actually got the girl i wanted in a 5 set, but i did not know how to deal with LMR when she was naked in my bed. A friend opened this set. I haven´t been sarging that much lately though, for different reasons.

Now I have 2 issues that i need to correct asap.

1: My problem now is opening girls. I can talk to strange guys no problem, but when i try to open girls i choke. The words just wont come out, I freeze. My mind goes blank and i don´t know how to deal with it. Which really sucks!

2: If i get introduced to a girl or something like that, it just ends up in boring conversation like what do you do? Where are you from? and so on. I know i have the potential to do this, and i know i can be fun. But my mind just draws a blank. At my old school i was fun, i teased all the girls i knew and we had fun. But i don´t know how to do this when it is a girl that i have just met. Some of those girls were interested in me, but i would crumble and start chasing the girl whenever they started to show interest in me. This was before i started reading up about this, and i had know idea why things happened as they did.

If anybody has some input in what i need to do as my next step, and how to get over this it would be greatly appreciated. I´m starting to get really frustrated.

Dude you might want to learn a new skill which will make you confident that what you are trying out will work. The reason why you freeze is because you are not so confident that what you are trying out will work.You have to start to get confident with what you want to say. I suggest you try cold reading. Cold reading is what fortune tellers use to be able to tell you things that only you should know. I am going to be doing a podcast on it so give me a private message and when i am done you will be the first to know.

So you think cold reading will solve my problems?

"all" i have to do is learn cold reading?

cold reading will certainly help because everyone likes someone who can read their mind

I think you may just need to become more confident in your material, practice and make sure you talk to everyone that you can on the way to where you are going to sarge, this will help you get into that social state, and talking to strangers will feel more natural.

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I would def be interested in some cold reading info as well.

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But the truth is, you have to do a LOT of wading and searching and trial and error before you meet a quality girl. There are so many stupid, emotionally fucked up, manipulative, shallow, uncultured, uninteresting, retarded bitches out there.

ok well i am working on the cold reading podcast should be online in a few hours. I will post a link on here as soon as i am done

ok well i am working on the cold reading podcast should be online in a few hours. I will post a link on here as soon as i am done

hey guys i just put the podcast t up. please download it and tell me what you think. www.sendspace.com/file/f4qwyl

Confidence is something it sounds like you need. Act like you're of higher value, and you're the prize. Would you freeze if the girl wasn't stunningly gorgeous? Chances are, probably not.

Sounds like you need some routines and stories. You gotta be interesting, but not creepy. Girls hear the same questions all the time, and when you start asking where they're from, what they do - a lot of them just go into auto pilot. Bring something to the table rather than that guy who just asks the formal questions that every guy does. If you're witty and original she'll be a lot more interested. Explain something that makes you come off as an adventerous type and then ask her something along the lines if she's the adventerous type.


If she isn't quite digging a ceartain story you're telling her, bring up something completely different and go into that for a while. You can always go back to it later if you get in an awkward stage of the conversation.

Just keep talking. It can be about anything positive and if you word it correctly it can be interesting or relevent to your interaction.

Hope that helps.

Thanks for the reply guys.

Definitely need be more confident in the materiel i have. It is just that the fear takes hold of me, and wont let go. Talking to for example someone who works at a store is much easier for me now than it use to be, but when talking to someone where the goal is to "pick up" that´s when i freeze. I just feel that i´ll make an ass out of myself, even though in the back of my mind i know that she probably wont remember me at all.

I dont even have DHV stories. Should try and make a couple those from my life maybe.

I have been "in state" a couple of times, and that is a great feeling. Those are the situations where i have gotten the best responses. And i have genuinely been fun! I know it is there, i just need to find it! Where is my mojo when i need it?