My main sticking point is that i feel since im in my local community college that if i approach and it does not go well that my value will go down because she will tell her friends which could be people i know and i will look bad. Thus the people i just became friends with will already start thinking like i have low value. I do approach but not nearly as much as i should. I know this mindset is in no way shape or form right but in the same sense i don't know how to shake it off. Im not that close with my friends yet so if they find out i gamed a girl and fail it could lower my value. What do you guys think about this? appreciated

This is clear sign your inner game is off.

You are currently viewing Game as something you DO--as in, I do XYZ and girl responds in KLM.

Game, good Game, is you BEING the game. Meaning, you Express yourself (not Impress) without any stifle blocking you. When you do that, you are shower her your TRUE self. If she does not like this, fuck her, not everyone will like you--they dont have to--but you will be 100% genuine and no one can hate you for that.

Right now, you are being re-active to what she might do. This is bad. It is unattractive. She wants someone with a strong reality.

This is some deep stuff, its a lot more in depth then techniques and tactics.

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SirKonstantine is absolutely correct about your inner game. However, inner game has no quick fixes.

There are ways to immediately improve your college game. I am in college now and have learned a lot by just trial and error. Here are two guidelines I go by so as to avoid being labeled a creeper (I assume this is your "losing value" concern):

1. Go indirect--ALWAYS:
College is a social mecca and girls are much more open to being approached on campus than most other places. She does not want to be known around campus as a bitch, so if you come on indirect she will be warm. That being said, going direct will get you blown off and labeled a creeper quickly. She has no social obligation to tolerate someone who is blatantly hitting on her. And don't forget, if you are a creeper to one girl, you are a creeper to her friends.

2. Do not be afraid to NOT close:
I know if I meet a girl at a club or the mall, I kick myself if I don't at least number close. But college is one of the few places you will see her again. And again. Do not force it--there will be a chance to reopen (and you should reopen every time you see her). If you try to close too early, you will be labeled a creeper.

3. Never force kino:
Though this is applies everywhere, it is especially important in the college arena. Girls can easily sense awkward/forced touching and will be creeped out. And, as is the theme of this post, so will her friends.

Okay, so that was 3, but the second and third ones fall under the same idea: slow it down. With these guidelines, you should not have to worry about losing social value on campus. So approach, approach, approach! Also, read Conquer Your Campus if you have not already. I didn't read it until after school started and sorely regret not reading it earlier.

As a side note these rules do not necessarily apply at college parties.

-RNM