Hey guys, basicly just joined, im not new to the community tho just to this forum. im going crazy ova this girl at the mo...shes like a straight 9, gorgeous. been on 2 dates with her, nothings happened yet (mainly cos of lack of opportunity) but theres serious sexual tension.

I know my mistake = i text her way too much and now shes starting to flake, what id appreciate is ideas for a recovery...

Right, problem = i dont know if shes flaking or just trying to play me to mk me more kean...ps. i know i have serious oneitus ova this but im hoping u guys can help me resurrect this prob.

Basicly, seen her twice now, last time was a week ago. Both times i see her she seems v receptive and gives loadsa IOI's. Even saw her briefly on sat night and she said "hurray back" when i went to myself a drink, i actually didnt see her again that night. Did i screw this up?i thought going straight back to her was being submissive and beta and by the time i decided to return she'd gone. Mistake?

Anyway, basicly the times shes taken to reply back txt wise has been increasing and increasing...my last txt asked her if she wanted to tag along with me to grab some food one night. She hasnt txt back in over 2 days which is unusual 4 her. Now my question is, is she flaking or just trying to play me and mk me kean? is there anyway to tell?

Also whats th plan now?(i cannot just forget about her so dnt say that). Wait a day or two and txt her again?saying what? I thought something like "dnt play hard to get with a guy whos hard to get. Txt me punk! x"....but thats meant to be used as an emergency, last min resort anyway...can u guys help??Whats my next move?

PS. i also see her occasionally only facebook chat. i never open chat with her in the rationale that if she wanted to chat to me she'd have txt me bck and i dnt wana seem needy...?Correct?

cheers,
Solo

Dude, in my opinion, you need to get your innergame straight! Who cares if she texts you back? You've got a thousand other girls, just waiting for your attention!

Remember that you are the most fun since jesus! Therefore, you need to convey it; and while you think that you are, in fact you're not, not as long as your innergame isn't strong enough! You say that the lack of opportunity has kept you from even k-closing her. Well, YOU need to make the opportunity happen, bro!

Noone will come down from above with a big sign saying: ''NOW!'' ; so go ahead and make your own rules! And even though you say, that you are aware of her being oneitus (being in control, making the rules) it seems like that you need to reverse the roles! So lighten up!

Don't overanalyse, have fun, and f-close the next five girls you meet, just because you can! Then text her next week, asking what sort of trouble she has been getting into the past week!

Kind Regards
templeofbu

I always look at these like this (dunoo if it's really a good or bad way to do it, seems to work though)

When she's starting to test you like this, or losing interest, I disqualify her out of my life and make her a test subject. Yep. Sounds harsh, but you need to move on straight away. However, now you have this chick (who as long as she isn't in your social circle) you can totally just run tests on. See what happens when you text her this, or call her at this time. Use it as an expirement. There's no reason to stop gaming a chick if you feel like it's lost. Your mentality turns into: well, there's nothing else I can do wrong; and it sort of gives you power of it. I've done this a few times and for whatever reason it pulls the girl back to me. If you've always wanted to test a freeze out, and text her in 2 weeks, try it.. see what happens!

Yeah man, this is the hardest thing for me to deal with and it seems like it always happens with the ones you pine for the most (coincidence? probably not). The most common response everyone gives is the "freeze-out".

What they don't talk about is, OK, you ignore her for a week, but then what happens when contact is re-initiated? Do those feelings of her wanting you (triggered mainly by scarcity) go away after you re-initiate? I'm curious for anyone out there to explain which way they've had the most success with in re-initiating contact after a freeze-out.

Also, I'd be really interested in hearing any successful freeze-out stories...it just seems like to me if she's a hot enough girl that she deserves a freeze-out, that when your away, she'll have her unlimited pick of guys and probably not be worrying about you.

But back to OP, I guess a freeze-out and acting actively disinterested when you see her is the way to go...

Solo you're in the friendzone #4 & 5 apply to you am-i-inthe-friend-zone-check-list-vt51424.html

and the freeze out WorkEthic is suggesting you do won't work because doesn't know your your sexually interested see here
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cheers for all your input guys. So a freezeout is probably on the cards. However is it really a freeze-out if im the one that contacted her (texting) last?isnt it just extending her freeze-out for me?!

Either way i have to freeze her out cos shes starting to flake. How do i reinitiate contact?in a week/2weeks time? Would i be like "What trouble have you...blah blah" or just maybe a simple "How was your week/weekend/day cutie?"??or do i call??

At this point do i want to be making her jealous?(she obviouskly thinks i have lower value but i dnt wana come across as TRYING to mk her jealous...)

So some help on what to actually do/say after the freeze-out would be much appreciated..

Solo