OK I got in a SIGNIFICANT argument with HBPornstar (literally she was offered a job @ vivid but turned it down) the kind where you would expect her to retaliate or want to leave, except it was a misunderstanding. Shes become aware of that fact.

Now She has a phone of mine that she wont hand over, even though it has no value to her (does to me).

When I went to get it she had me ask her child for it (she knows that I see him as my own, I basically helped raise him).

She was very giddy when I went over, and I acted very distant and non needy and told her I would come back in 20 minutes cause she said she didnt have my phone.

When I came back she seemed very distant. She said that her grandma knew where my phone was and that I could stop by later. When I asked her what a good time to stop by was she stalled.
So I asked her to wander with me briefly and she said she was watching a show (yet she didnt rush me at all) So I asked her if we were still gonna hang out and she said she didnt know( in the way that implied that it was my choice BL and VT)

I stopped by the next day and same thing. I asked her if we could just go for a walk around the block and catch up and she said it was too wet (it just got done raing an hour ago and was nioce out) So I mentioned that it didnt matter cause she was leaving in a month (according to her) and she said that she was actually supposed to leave a month ago and that she stayed (she stressed the staying part)

So and and so forth.

I just texted her tonight and was trying to be playful but she seemed "off" (of course so was I) and she would text back almost right away continuing the convo.
An example of being off would be the follwoing from our text (Rough):

Me: You suck at picking up hints - insert playful name here
Her - It would seem so *missing~Him*
M: Are you implying something? - Purple people eater
Her - I dont know, am I *missing~him*
Me: Of course - Jose


I few texts later she asked if I could text her back in 45 minutes, and I said "I'd rather not"

Her exact response was

"Fine then don't. I was just trying to talk to someone"

And I left it at that.

We have had sex and have known each other since 06' with an on again off again style of interaction.

So serioulsy what do you make of her behavior.

Honest opinions please.

Did you get your phone back eventually?

And whats missing him? She concerned with some other dude.

Sounds like when she had your celly she was just holding onto it to keep you coming around , possibly knowing the fact your getting fed up with her or knowing you might leave her.

Idk what you want to make out of this, you planning to marry this chick or something? Just asking cause of reading how you put up with her bulshit and flakiness with the phone issue.

No I haven't got my phone back. She keeps making reasons on why she can't find the phone.

As for the missing him, it could be a variety of things (including your thought). For example my close friend and her boyfriend died in 06 and she's never gotten over that (murder when she was maybe 200 feet away). She will go through public displays of missing him every 1-2 months. I ended up in the hospital for over a month and just got back, and there were rumours that I had died. So she may not have changed her name back. Its been that way since before I got back. Then theres many other things.

"Sounds like when she had your celly she was just holding onto it to keep you coming around"

Thats the impression I'm getting.

"Possibly knowing the fact your getting fed up with her or knowing you might leave her"

Thats what some other people and I thought.

The only thing that confuses me is she keeps trying to make emotional connections and rapport (the only rapport breaks are not giving me my phone, and not leaving her house (minus the texts last night).
Then the sudden change from moving to another city to staying.
Also I've been seeing other women, and when she got a hint about that she kept trying to figure out who one chick was and my relationship to her.
She keeps implying that she's busy, but then she messed up by giving me her work schedual which covers 90% of the time she was saying she was busy ( I didn't ask for it).

To me either shes playing a game, or shes trying to get me back in her life, without directly saying it.


"Idk what you want to make out of this, you planning to marry this chick or something? Just asking cause of reading how you put up with her bulshit and flakiness with the phone issue."

No, I don't want to marry her lol, but I wouldn't mind keeping her in my life and seeing what I could develop out of it. As for putting up with the bullshit and flakiness, thats years of watching out for each other taking over. Then theres the fact theres important contacts in there that I can only call due to distance. So it would be hard to get those back.