i need help in starting conversations, or even just avoiding the awkward silence, like i've read a lot on how to avoid this or just acept it, but really I ALWAYS HAVE PROBLEM WITH THIS, like im always the guy that can talk to a crowd but when, its one on one, im stuck.. i need help with this huge dilema, because people are now mentioning how i alwasy have awkward silences

Talk about what's going on in the moment, make observations. And talk mostly in statements. Being witty and lighthearted helps as well.

Your main problem seems to be putting the other person on a pedestal, as soon as you're one on one. You seem to be using your group as the basis of your own value. And without it feel unconfident and low value (compared to the target).

The ultimate solution is "being in the now". There's an excellent post here about it:

natural-game-being-present-and-in-the-m ... 37458.html

and Eckhart Tolle's, "The power of now" defines it beautifully, albeit slightly "new age-y"

This'll give you the creativity and indifference to others' judgment, to fully express yourself, regardless of the situation.


Wolfus