I cant figure out why girls are flaking on me. For some reason lately every girl i talk to flakes on me. Now i respond accordingly by smoking a joint and cutting them off. I've been racking my brain trying to figure out why this keeps happening. I thought it was just me being to eager or the girls just not being into me but then i realized that all of these girls told ME they wanted to see me or hang out with me. I really need to figure this out.

If it helps i'll explain 3 scenarios where i've been flaked on

1. HB 7 texted me and told me to come visit her. I told her I'd come see her that friday. Friday comes, i call her, she doesnt call me back. Smoked a blunt and let it go.

2. HB 9 told me she wanted to see me, have coffee or something. we agree'd on saturday, spoke to her on saturday. I texted her, she texted me, i texted her back , no response. Smoked a blunt and let it go. Now this one i think was just me being over eager cuz i've sweated her for years.

3. Most recent. HB 7.5, neighbor, facebooked me telling me we should hang out soon, saw her and asked her if she wanted to get up later that night, she said yea and asked for my number, told me she'd call me later that night. She didnt call that night, but i was busy anyway so it didnt really matter. I texted her the next day asking if she wanted to hang out, she wanted to postpone till saturday, i told her i couldnt make saturday. No response.

Now i've let the other 2 go for now, cuz I know of the two of them one will probably try to contact me within the next few months. However since the last one is one of my neighbors I really want to salvage it. PLEASE HELP ME

instincts, emotions, spontaneousness,
what you have to remember is that HBF first contact of you was as a PUA a person who confidence and every spontaneous word that came out you mouth was almost like a a holiday from a routine of a mundane life

you made her crash back to reality when you let the fire she had for you die without any D.H.V through the or nag

thanks

Im not gonna lie, as good looking as i am, and how confident I am, im laughing at this post. Man, don't take it serious. I would get , say, 7 or 8 numbers, and on average, about 1 or 2 would actually show up for a date. It happens man. But heres maby a few places your going wrong.

1) Not enough attraction. Maby you havent presented yourself the right way for her to be attracted. (attraction happens in seconds after she sees you. not when your talking.) Maby she saw you as friend material and was just being nice...

2)Not enough rapport\comfort. If she isn't comfortable enough, no matter HOW attracted to you she is, she has a higher chance of flaking on you because she simply isn't comfortable enough with you.
And thats all i can think of right off the bat. Its ok man, Rejection happens. Usually i can spot flakiness within talking to a girl for 5 minutes. Thats when I read her body language. It happens with practice. But an average man will get about 1-2 out of 10 women. Depending on your experience with women. So dont sweat it brother!

And what the fuck is D.H.V? yOU ARE already indeed higher value. Its how you see yourself and the world. EITHER she is interested in you or she is not. No amount of DHV,NEGS,PEGS,LINES,ROUTINES,CAN OPENERS is going to change that. When you truly believe in yourself 100% and that turns into confidence, thats when you present yourself to be more attractive, other than that, a woman will like you for YOU. All the canned stuff goes away, and thats when you fail with women.

haha yeah dude, its like ur getting a lil attached to each one. ur gonna get flakes no matter what.

like manman said, every 10 numbers u get...at least 2 should be solid.

hey OP what crowd of chicks are you dealing with? No offense but assuming since you said you smoke weed, do the chicks your going after do drugs and shit as well? These girls always seem to be more difficult then regular party bitches. For some reason(as ive seen with friends trying with these girls) they have soo many issues that they get caught up in and because of that they may be to busy to do anything real with their life. Such as if they chick is a pot head, shes probably looking to smoke out or score weed from with whoever and from whoever...main goal other scenarios coming second.

Or it sounds like shes trecking to see if you'll chase her....most classic test in the book...bitch tells some dude she wants to get together/or shes very forward with him just to see how he'll act. Depending on how one handles from that point on could decide the fate of yes or no.

Ive seen a couple girls run on this guy with similar shit, we started talking about doing something later in the night..dude suggested about going for a ride on a buddies vessel in the river. This chick gets instantly excited saying oh yea ill show up for that, can i bring friends, starts naming off people, sounding anxious etc etc. SOUNDED INTERESTED AS FUCK...had me fooled even(except i would've handled differently see my personal experience later)..what does this dude do, flips out within seconds starts trying to make plans right away. Right then and there calls his friend asking about if he can make it happen. Then I noticied seconds later the chick was quiet and was seemingly more quiet, not asking any more questions or anything about the ride.

PAUSE

What just happened right there? This clever bitch set this dude up to see how "far" he would go out on a limb to try to sway her and go out of his way to set things up. You can all guess what happened...I called later(6pm evening) asked if it was setup, OH YEA BRO THE GIRLS AREN'T COMING but we are still going. Go figure right, chick tells the dude the day after she had a serious hangover....at 6pm? HAHAH keep in mind this whole ordeal went down in the afternoon with plans to go later in that night. Doesn't make sense how you can obtain a hangover with in a few hours without drinking

NOW having it happen to me with a bit of better handling. I cant remember all the exact context but it was very similar to above but with a very similar flirty chick.She told me she was free saturday night, so I ask whats to do? She said she didn't care im not picky. The breeze of how she said that bothered me, idk why but it did.I Decided on a movie and a general time to go that weekend. So basically i ended a conversation with the "possibilty" of going that night, it was not in stone really, sort of knew from the way she was talking not to push anything. Called that day, 30minutes to get ready and go pick her up. Simple.

A flake is a flake, but sometimes depending on if you can handle and your attitude towards things may have a HUGE role in your fate.