hi all
i met this girl at a teacher's wedding and after some successful openers we got to talking and started hanging out. it's been almost 3 months and we have met up quite a number of times already. unfortunately, i've run into a major problem now: which is i find that this is going nowhere. going nowhere in the sense that whenever we go out, we have fun and at the end of the day it ends on happy notes, but i don't see this relationship having any future implications. there is only mild kino (she is comfortable with the hands around the shoulders etc etc but she has rejected being massaged, more or less in an informal manner). is it possible for me to escalate this further?
also, she takes AGES to respond to text messages (like 2, 3 days) and i don't find this particularly annoying but could it mean something i don't know yet? another thing is that i'm usually the one who suggests going out and she complies, rather than she being the one asking me (which i think should be the case). i think there is some sort of a lack of trust here, any way i can help to build this up?
i believe she's actually a very smart person because my mid-game techniques don't seem to work that well on her (e.g. my routines). she likes to respond with the "whatever" (-.-) face or answer with and 'okayyy' kind of attitude. again, i see something lacking here, i just don't know how to go about countering it.
i was talking to a friend today and he told me that i could probably use a parting speech to bring things back. it's a 50-50 risk kinda thing, where i tell her in a serious manner that i see this going nowhere because of (bla bla bla, maybe throw in some cold reading here) that she's so and so, therefore it would be better for us to go our own ways (i plan to use this as a reverse psychology effect instead of really parting ways). i dunno if this is a chance i should take, but my friend claims i don't have much to lose now since it really isn't progressing. what do you guys think?
as of now, i have the following which might help/not help so please do give me some ideas on how i can use these to my advantage.
1)we have planned to watch a horror movie sometime soon and she's completely scared shitless when it comes to horror movies
2)i bought and kept a shirt which she really likes (i haven't given it to her yet)
3)on the 28th this month, she has planned something for my birthday celebration which i am currently unaware of. simultaneously, on the same day, there is earth hour in which some public places switch off their lights for an hour around 8.30pm back in my country. i see some potential here..
by the way, the above stated doesn't mean i have planned anything. it's just a chain of events that might be useful to you guys based on my current situation to help me think things out. it's situations i see some chance in, i dunno.
please bomb me with all your responses. i have spoken to quite a number of people but they have all given me different answers. if i missed out on any detail (which i most prabaly have), please let me know. i will post back on the forum. thanks everyone, you're my last hope
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. Just do it before the endless LJBF (Lets Just Be Friends) if it haven't begun already!