hey guys, im not really sure how i want to deal with this situation. i would like to hear some opinions.

So i been seeing this girl (HB8) for about 2 weeks and every week its been something new. i met her through a mutual friend (HB7) who used to have a thing for me, but is now dating one of my friends. last weekend her parents were out of town so the 4 of us were gonna hang out and go in her parents hot tub. the girls decide to call people and try to make it a party, which failed miserably. like 5 other people showed up. we stay up waiting for everyone to leave and then suddenly girl goes to bed without sayin anything. i wrote it all off when i left her parents that morning.

then the next day she calls me apologizing for acting weird. i ignore and she procedes to blow up my phone with texts. eventually i decide to hang out with her, then she tells me she lives with her ex bf. i tell her thats cool and all but im not planning on playing games so she better know what she wants. we hang out a few times after that and things are good. physical escalation, pot use, and her obsessed with my back issues of playboy.

last night shes trying to get me to come to her (and her ex's) place for a party. she gets of work and comes over to smoke out of my vapo. we get high and start making out. i hadnt committed to the party yet, she asks me if im going to go. i ask her if her boyfriend is there. she tells me he is out of town. i get there around 11 and there is nothing going on at the place. then her ex comes in with one of his buddies. i hang around til my buddy shows up to see HB7. i finish my beer and walk out without sayin bye to anyone. my buddy follows me out and i tell him HB8 lied to me and im not going to deal with that, which he understands totally.

HB8 calls me, i dont answer. she leaves me a message tellin me not to be weird. text fighting ensues.

she claims she doesnt play games but already ive seen a few instances that would prove otherwise. shes also really into choking, hairpulling, and namecalling during intimacy and is constantly apologizing. this leads me to believe that she has low self esteem. now im sure this girl likes me, but im not sure if shes trying to make her ex jealous or trying to get me to fight for her attention, or what she has on her mind.

any insight about any part of this would be greatly appreciated. how would you guys handle this situation, what you think is going on, etc.

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She sounds like a flake to me. People who are always apologizing for stuff do so because they don't have their acts together, and because they know it.

Part of the game is to maintain control of things. Part of maintaining control is to ensure the women respect your time.

This can't be done with flaky people. So it takes away from your game.

no, she's not flaky. i have no trouble getting ahold of her/getting her to hang out. she just constantly has these ridiculous situations.

i woke up this morning and she had texted me. i ignored it, then she sent me a few more. it was a basic text fight until i said the most mature thing to ever come out of my mouth. "Lets just both agree to communicate better in the future." after that she fell apart like putty in my hands. she immediately apologized but im still putting her on the back burner for a while.

after i dealt with it, both my buddy and HB7 hit me up sayin they woulda done the same thing. interesting situation though, HB7 said i should stop seeing her altogether. this is the same girl that set us up to begin with. im gonna see how things go from here, but any other opinions, questions, comments are welcome

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