Hay guys,

I was working on a HB9, i neg'd / DHV / and build loads of rapport.
she then started showing signs of interest, touching / jealousy when i was talking to other girls / txting me after like a day "where are you, i havent seen u in ages".

i spent time with her (breakfast, watching a film at mine), she tried to tease me by showing me pictures of her all done up in sexy positions on her phone, and when we were watching a film at mine she rolled all over my bed moaning she could get comfortable.

after these events i man up and told her i "liked her" (on a MSN convo), she said she "liked me", but shes didnt want a relationship, i said i didnt want to rush into one - i just liked spending time with her. she came over that night.

we didnt do any talking, we started kissing stright away, it was passionate, we dry humped for ages and gave hand jobs, after about an hour of this fun she acidently knocked her phone off the bed and it smahed everywhere.

this broke the moment, that very minute she changed completely, started saying its too fast, i walked her half way home , she wouldn't kiss me goodbye, saying she didnt want to lead me on, i was thinking "where did all this come form?", then she said she had shit with her ex to sort out, so i was understanding about it.

a few days l8er we both went home for xmas (were both students), when we got back i found out that she has a NEW boy friend!, i feel completely PLAYED, not sure where i went wrong or if shes just a bad one, i need advice and opinions here guys, im not gunna hide my pride and say i didn't care, i really liked this girl and im still gutted about the situation.

i havent spoke to her propperly since, in fact ive ignored her, shes tried to speak to me a few times (because ive ignored her).

i dont know how to go about this, i would like to regain my pride and understand why it went all wrong.

if anyone can help please do!

thanks, Lovable-Rouge!

okeydokey, understanding, that's where you went wrong. There's a time and a place for it, but it's not in the begining! I've met a couple girls like your one, and mostly they're looking for the ultimate alpha. The begining was too soft as well, "I like you" over MSN, about as unalpha as you can get, play with hints and language, get her to your place, then show her!
The whole alpha male analisis is swung around too much in the comunity but in the stage between friend, and lover, that's where it has to come in! You have to show you can bring home the bacon!
if she'd said to me "I don't want to lead you on", I'd have said something like "fuk that, you're not leading me anywhere, I know exactly where this is going... Girls throw all kinds of little challenges at you, and you have to win them, or if you can't, then let them know you're not playing them! If she does all, this is too fast, don't say, "oh, ok then" either, jump up, don't say anything, and go watch some TV, alienate her, or bulldoze it with jokes! but most of your problem will have come before the night, not on the night itself, and you haven't given much information about that, so I coulden't say exactly!...

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"there is no ordinary life Wyatt, there's just life" Doc Holliday!

I think your completely right my friend...

I got to know her via looking after her, because a friend of mine was messing her around (at the time i thought he was playing her, now i see that he really just didn't care and that's why she cared so much, she wanted what she couldn't have) I kept her company when she was upset and protected her when there was trouble (whilst doing this I was DHV'ing & neg'ing).

I relies now that I was a sucker for her damsel in distress story and let her see my nice side way way to early.

I will learn form this.

p.s. How do I go about not making these mistakes in the future (I will never tell a girl i liker her over MSN again lol)?

p.s.s. Is there anyway I could regain some of the ground with her?

p.s.s.s. How do I show ultimate Alpha-male?

any help advice or stores are greatly appreciated!

thanks Lovable-Rouge!