Hi guys

Really need your help with this hot girl. Now I know your not meant to get stuck on one girl, but I can see this problem recurring if I don't get it sorted now. Here goes...

Met this girl while bowling with my work mates. We chatted and she gave me lots of eye contact and seemed to want to get to know me more. I played it cool and I bumped into her briefly a couple of days later. I was with friends at the time and was not enough time to really catch up on the previous night. Now although it was a couple of weeks later I did ask her out for a coffee. She initially said yes but then the next day she made up some excuse about xmas shopping but would be keen to go out again sometime. I got her e-mail, busted on her a bit and sent her an e-mail saying something like 'just realised.. you are now in my debt ha ha... I prefer so and so coffee place'.

She has not responded to this.

Where do I go from here?? How do I turn this mess around?? I feel like just cause I asked her out she now has all the power. She could be playing hard to get but I don't want to beg for a date...

Hahaha. Ok, to the HB, that translated is this:
You've been planning this all week.
By saying that you're proving that the ball is in her court.
You're trying to cover up that fact/soften it by laughing.
Bit of a jerk. (This line could have worked if you got the preceding steps right).

You see what I mean? I don't think you created enough attraction before asking her out on a date. The second thing is that the whole asking out on a date thing was completely wrong. She might be thinking "is this guy too pussy to ask me out on a date or what? Why all this jibberish about debt?" And that trait is a major UNATTRACTION switch.

Talking about debt is a really weak ass tool. She doesn't owe you shit, and you should try to keep it that way. A girl can't be logically persuaded into liking you.

She isn't thinking "Oh yeah he's right; I do owe him. I am obligated to comply and go out on a date with him."

She is thinking "Wow, what a douche bag. If he wants to ask me out, why doesn't he just do it instead of using this 'debt' bullshit? If this is how he responds to a minor change of plans, then imagine how he would be if we actually were dating? He is super needy."

From here on out, you need to understand that your most powerful tool is a willingness to walk away. You do want to go out, and its fine to ask girls, but if they turn you down or flake, you have to be very careful when it comes to showing that it bothers you. I would have just accepted that she wanted/needed to do something else and then asked another day.