I have been into this 18yo girl for quite some time. She is quite shy, I guess. I managed to pluck her msn add from her friendster. We chatted on msn. I always get the vibe that she is always shy. I even got her number. Tried calling but no answer. I did bust on her shyness once. On msn and text, it is always me who initiates the convo. I know, too AFC-like. I am nvr like this. I even had to push away an ex cos I am just into this girl.

Anyway, I tried asking her out couple of times. She was busy wif her studies and other commitments. I managed to ask her out last week and she replied maybe but later suggested we would meet up yest. She even gave me a promise. I had to cancel some plans wif frens for that. I asked her if we were still on for Sat's lunch on thur. She said she could make it for dinner. I had to do some rescheduling. Then, yest, she told me that she was not feeling well and had to cancel. She suggested to next week instead. Right now, I am not sure what I should do. Could I be suffering from 'one-itis'? How should go about asking her out for the upcoming meeting? How do I prevent her from flaking again? Anyway, there is this event on sat evening where I might meet her either way whether she flakes or not. Thanks for the help guys.

Ive been in a situation close to this, where the girl never initiated texts and flaked occasionally but always offered up another time. The only reason i stuck with it was because i knew her quite well from school a little while back.

I would suggest if you have never met her in person, that you freeze her out for a bit. Mainly to help yourself get over it more so than get the girl. After a week or two give her a call ask her to meet you somewhere if she rejects move on delete her from your phone and msn.

Might sound a little crude but i know how you feel and it really isn't good for you in any way.

You're obsessing over a single girl who you haven't even met, much less dated or slept with. Yeah, thats one-itis. You're on a downward spiral.

Stop asking her out. She isn't comfortable with the idea of hanging out with you alone. From here on out, you only mention where you are going and open the invitation for her to join you, preferably with your friends there. No more trying to make plans with just the two of you. Focus on DHVs and establishing social proof.

You're sounding pretty needy. When she says she can't go, it doesn't matter. When she says she is sick, insist that she stay away from you. Your behavior is not helping your cause. From here on out, you don't give a crap. Your only goal is to have fun.

In order achieve, you must let go.

thanks a lot guys. i have got a feeling that there is no attraction or rapport going on that gives her reason to flake.

but, let's just say if i were to try again. how would u go about asking her out while at the same time building up attraction and rapport through text?