I'm pretty good at indirect game, and I'm a pretty good looking guy, so it's not unusual to hear girls telling me how cute I am. Thing is, they seem to say it when I don't expect it, and when they do, it throws me off so badly, I'm beating myself up for it later on. For example, they would usually travel in sets of 2. One group was making small talk with me, like what we did on the weekend and such, and out of no where one would say, "I'm gonna hook you up with my sister, k?" And I would just start mumbling, throw's my playful mentallity all off. Another example is when I was walking through a door, I opened the door for this HB and UG. They're giggling on the way out, and I just smile and say you're welcome. And right when they're about to walk away, the UG goes, "Excuse me, my friend thinks you're cute." And all I ever say is, "Oh thanks." Or "You think so? Hehe, okay bye." WTF is wrong with me?! I know what the best thing to say in the situation, it just doesn't come to mind on the right time. The usual mentallity I walk around with is the "My shit don't stink" mentallity, but whenever they throw direct game at me, it throws that mentallity all out of proportion. Any one know what's the best mentallity to walk around with for this situation? If anyone even understands what I'm talking about.

Man I feel where you are coming from...Others usually perceive my value HIGHER than what I feel about myself...It's really a contradictory effect but it's true. I am also a naturally good looking person (6'2'' 175lbs athletic, dark hair/eyes) but I feel so NAIVE sometimes and can't accept that most women usually find me physically attractive...you wouldn't believe the number of times that I have made "mutual interest" eye contact with women and then not have the balls to introduce myself even if I KNOW that I'm pretty much already in as long as I don't make a complete jackass of myself...It's definitely mental drawback that I have had continuous trouble with over the years. I had a good female friend one time tell me "Shreder, You really don't know how hot you are, do you." And I just sat there. I guess I don't. Game is very much a CONSCIOUS EFFORT for me. It's very forceful for me to put myself out there, but I have had a GREAT SUCCESS RATE...but only with the ones I CHOSE TO GAME, which have only been a select few. Am I too selective? Not necessarily. I love women (who doesn't?) so I almost have a mindset of "If I can't have them all then I don't want any." Which is completely stupid! I mean just sitting here typing this sounds retarded! I should be out there hooking sets left and right...I only go into pure game mode like once a month tops when it would be so easy for me to actually open the numerous sets that come from my everyday interactions. Like last week I was the life of a party but the other night I was almost reclusive in a very social setting...I was even peacocking! But I was too afraid to game! So I ended up looking like an idiot! I can't believe myself sometimes. I don't know man, I would just say that a lot of us need to have less self confidence and more SELF ACCEPTANCE for who we already are as interesting, valuable, fun, outgoing, guys looking for the next good time. The set has been opened for you. You just have to step through the door and into the game.

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[/quote]Game is very much a CONSCIOUS EFFORT for me. It's very forceful for me to put myself out there, but I have had a GREAT SUCCESS RATE...but only with the ones I CHOSE TO GAME, which have only been a select few. Am I too selective? Not necessarily. I love women (who doesn't?) so I almost have a mindset of "If I can't have them all then I don't want any." [quote]

I agree with this statement, but is that how we really are? or is that how we percieve we are? I mean, I can tell tell when I'm alpha. I tend to have an opinion about everything, I can read all the subtle IOIs, but when dealing with women I "don't choose to nail", I get thru A1 and C1 phases, but never want to even execute S1( except when I'm drunk, in which case I choose to nail everyone.) These women aren't necessarily ugly, but they just don't seem to interest me. It's like I'm waiting for them to interest me before I truely game them. Is this what you're feeling? Can anybody come up with a magic potion to fix this?

you need to be more confident. learn a little bit more on cocky funny. when girls say to me "my friend thinks you cute" my automatic response is one of 2 variations of the same sentence. its either, your friend sounds like a smart girl, or 'your friend is a smart girl". with laughs of course, but you just need to accept the fact that you're cute and not be surprised when girls tell you it, because you already know it. dont think of it as anything more then an observation, that way it doesnt throw you off as much. its just like them saying you are wearing a cool shirt.

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pull yourself together coldanddiluted those are HUGE IOI's your getting from those chicks, if some chick tells you she thinks your cute, go C&F and be like "yea chicks say that all time, what can i do? i'm cursed with these good looks" OR if they tell you they want you to hook you up with a sister/friend stay in your frame, say something like "wait, what's she look like, i need height, weight, color of hair and eyes, can she cook?..." etc etc, you get the point? Above all else, Stay Alpha

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