if any of you is familiar with that ...
what if i do tongue and cheek and the girl takes me seriously?
what should i do? should i explain i didn't really mean it ?

_________________
No Quitter Go Getter

its up to you to use your better judgement, but if you go sexual, fuck no, don't take it back, thats the whole idea of a shit test, girls test your congruence to see if your truely like how your acting, and if you are it is often a turn on,
for example,
say to a girl,
wow you look sexy,
she says ewwww wtf go away,
you stay there, ignore her, change the subject
later on she says, did you really mean what you said,
you say of coarse, she allows things to escalate (tadaa it was a test of congruence, will you stand by what you do or are you being fake),
but you get less shit tests, and ASD if you handle asd properly, and escalate more smoothly, for example using sexual jokes as a way to lead into a serious sexual frame,
to eachs own, but i would say you should never have to explain yourself to someone, unless you feel you absolutely need to, only you can answer that question, but all that is important in my opinion is YOU DO WHAT YOU WANT, AND YOU DON'T CARE WHAT PEOPLE THINK, stand by your actions and don't appologise for them, unless you think what you did was wrong (something you would not normally do) thus the paradox of congruence/congruence testing has been introduced to you