Well the subject says it all. Is buying a drink for a girl u r goin on a date with chivalry or is it a bad idea? would love to hear your thoughts on whats the better thing to do?

Depends on the situation.

For instance, I'm dating this girl, who doesn't make alot of money but insists on paying her cut on a date. I on the other hand have a decent salary, so I could easily afford to pay. I don't mind to pay abit more in this situation.

But, if a girl expects me to pay for it, I'm not paying everything, 50/50 sounds fair then

Its all about the intention

I have the exact same situation as Eztys. There's a girl I'm with who makes literally nothing. Just scarps from helping her parents in the family business. Not even a stable money making job. More like an allowance. And she's a full time student, so that won't change soon.

There's two things when you enter this situation, that you have to realize:

1. If you don't shoulder a decent amount of the financial burden and you're doing standard dates, then she's going to run out of money. If she has any decency, she's not going to want to STIFF you with the bill, but she won't want to go out with you, because money has become an issue. This seems foolish to me, so I always work something out. If a girl can't genuinely pay 50/50 dollar wise, make it 50/50 object wise. Maybe you go to a dinner, and you end up paying. Then you go to get Starbucks, and she pays. She won't run out of money, but she's not getting the free ride either.

2. Always play up the gentleman role on dates you are primarily financing. If you're paying for things, but not acting like a gentleman in other ways (opening doors, etc.), you'll be a pimp, paying for her company, rather than that really cool guy who's doing it because he respects her position.

If this is not the case, though, then you shouldn't pay for everything all the time. But do it every once in a while. Then it's a special treat. If you're always paying for everything, she'll come to expect it, and won't appreciate it.

Yeah what u guys said makes a lot of sense! Thanks a lot for taking the time to answer my question guys!

But i still have one question, what about on the first date? The first time u actually go out? Here it would be fine to pay rite? I would personally look to pay for it because I feel like a cheap d*ck if i ask to go dutch. And besides how do u even ask a question like that in the first place, especially on the first date

I'm female and I date only women. I don't think that changes things much.

If you are on a first date, you want it to be romantic. It's more romantic for one person to pay for the date. If you spit it 50/50 then it could seem like you are friends. If you go out with her on a 3rd or 4th date and she hasn't offered to pay, I would consider her a user and cheap. If she is poor, then she should at least try to pay for something cheap, like an inexpensive lunch or coffee.