i met this girl in a club..and pulled the WHOLE game on her...she told me the same night that she still speaks to her ex and is thinking about giving him a second chance (after he cheated on her and goes off in stroppy moods and ends up shouting at her for nothing) we always see eachother out and she is all over me and she would end up staying with me even when her friends leave the club...we speak every day..and we have slept together on a few occasions got really intimate but never actually had sex ! the one time we wanted to we had no condom! it actually was a mission trying to find one in her brothers room whilst he was sleeping!....i asked her to come out for something to eat..and she dropped me a massive book of a txt saying she couldnt see/peak to me anymore because she has got back with her bf! i was very polite about it..i was out dancing with another girl when she sent me a txt saying ''i know i should txt u this but i really want to come and dance with u even though ur probably dancing with a much hotter girl than me!!...she has a BF and i was in her bed yet again that night and even met her dad.. in the morning she was all happy that i was there.....she is sooo into me but this bf thing gettin to me now someone help please? whats my next move?

Ive highlighted the problems. She seems like a sweet girl, but loves your attention. Stop giving her attention. Dont be rude or pissy about it. Just say something like "hey, i would love to dance with you, but this girl was here first. MAYBE another time".

I hope you didnt text back "no your just as beautiful" or something similar to that. She was seeking validation. You want to stay away from that, thats her bf's job not yours. If the bf doesn't do that, maybe she will wise up and see that


Freeze her out. Start with a week and see what happens

Sounds like she is only a few steps away from moving you into her friendszone..

thanx ill let you guys know what happened shortly...

ok...i stopped at her house again last night...intimate again but no sex..woke up had cup of tea with dad and brother who are really friendly..(they actually know she has a bf but both know he is a dick to her) like she told me she was getting ready to go out the other night she was singing in front of the mirror and he told her to shut up!! i swear i want to kill him lol....back to the point when i left she came to the door i say come here gimme a kiss! and she sayd she felt bad and didnt give me one..so i just gave her a hug................................

i got home with a bit of a messed up head and i asked her why wouldt she kiss me..''so you regret last night now then?''

her--''i dont regret it just i feel like a really shit person and dont want to be that person (but i dont know there is something about uuu i just cant help it u seem to nice to be true''

i will probably see her out this sunday night any suggestions on what i should do???
p.s she is the most honest person i have ever met..i could ask her anything and she would tell me..i dot know if this will work at my advantage at all..

Freeze he out, be willing to walk away, put her in friendzone before she puts you there

If you get close , have a DVD night with. Red wine (natural Viagra) and hopefully a condom this time..

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You have to have the mentality that you can get someone better. This girl is messing with your mind dude, don't get played.

"Either you play the game or watch the game play you" -J Cole
It seems to me we have some one-itis here. You just need to freeze her out. She's using you for attention so that you can raise her confidence since her bf is breaking it down. Don't give her the time-a-day especially since you're not getting anything out of it. The best thing you could do is let her bf keep breaking down her confidence until eventually she can't take it anymore and comes chasing you. You have nothing to prove, she needs to be proving things to you. Each time you spend this time with her you're investing your energy in something that is not giving you anything in return = Played.

I would be afraid of losing her if I did this
But if I give her validation especially if her bf is not, then I may actually get her, right?

On second thought, your right because I don't want to be put in the "friendzone"

Man, its harsh but the fact that you are AFRAID of losing her is key. Your honesty is great but if YOU are the one experiencing a fear of loss then you're not gonna get her. SHE has to be the one feeling that she could lose YOU...you can only do this by not validating her, dont be a dick, but dont be a pussy either.
What she is doing, is getting treated badly by her boyfriend and hitting you up to validate her and make her feel better. Once that emotion is sated she will just go and fuck the boyfriend again - the boyfriend whether or not he knows what he is doing is mixing up her emotions, making her angry, confused, jealous, horny, happy, moving between. And that's what holds a woman's interest. If you are being the supportive shoulder and not being challenging to her, you will be LJBF'd.

Leave her be for a bit. DO not validate. Do not be a dick. De not get oneitis. Just be genuinely busy, or game some other ladies. If she is in to you, an opening will present itself for you to game again from a clean slate. Cant work on a dirty slate my man. If she doesn;t get back and present an opening, then it's not gonna happen. NEXT!

Dont beat yourself up dude, we've all been there.

You should always run more game with women who haven't just had something bad happen. You'll lose her interest and add more pain into her life. She's trying to get away from pain.

She said some keywords. She thinks you are too good to be true.

This means she is still upset over that other guy.

If you really like her and want her to stay around longer than just casual sex you can still do some of the tactics.

1. Don't call her for a few days. Wait for her to call you. The reason why is you want her to come up with the conclusion herself that she should give you a go.

2. When you do call her, tell her you have just been busy.

3. Refrain from complimenting her too much.

4. What do you both have in common? Entice her with events that have something she is interested in. Make sure she has so much fun that she isn't thinking about that other guy.

5. Don't call her for a few days. Let her think about how much fun she had.

6. Call her, tell her you have been busy (think of something you both have in common that she would wish she was there with you participating in) She may even invite herself over, if not, invite her over to see what you have been busy with.

With this kind of event, you don't want to play the jealousy mind games or the ones that are cold. You don't really want to play hot though, you want to play warm and then turn off the running faucet, turn it back on.

If she does call you when you are busy, talk to her but not longer than 30 minutes. Say, I enjoy talking with you but I have to get back to doing my project. Thanks for calling!