I've known this HB9 for a while now. We started out as friends but we later hooked up on a few occassions. That eventually died off due to a fight, and after the fight I froze her out for about six months. After that she started initiating contact with me again. We've been talking for a few months now but nothing has come of it. She's always flaking, pulling LMR or ignoring it all together when I ask her out. (I usually ask her out over text which is probably not the best). Anyway, I'm pretty much at wit's end and can't deal with it anymore. It's very frustrating that everytime we talk, which she usually initiates it will always end with me saying something and then her just never responding. She's become more distant in the past few weeks. I want to run another freeze out but I need advice on doing it sucessfully. As I said she always contacts me so I don't want to just not answer, but I feel like I never have the upper hand. I'm thinking of going with a few short answers then me being the one to stop responding. Flip the game around. Any thoughts? And after this how do I initiate a date? Also it seems like a lot of the time she will initiate with me if she needs a favor or advice...I have a hard time ignoring these requests because I'm a pu**y and don't want to lose out on her. But in the end everything I do gets me nowhere anyway. I'm pretty lost guys, any help you could offer would be great.

hey dude sounds like she might be a bit of a oneitus so that sucks, confusion in a situation is worse than a rejection or knowing where u stand, so I think u need for urself to get an answer out of her and say im sick of this shit and communicate what u want from urs and hers interaction, and dont be scared to lose her as a result cus ur going for what u want..

Be careful if she contacting u when she needs advice and shit alot of women have guys they keep round for emotional support they may even makeout with em just so they feel validated and loved, hope this helps good luck 2 u

Hey, thanks for the reply. I hear what you're saying the only thing is that I don't want to sound like a little bitch and let her know that what she is doing bothers me. That's not very alpha. Would anyone disagree? Is there a way to bring the situation of her never responding to light without sounding like a bitch?

no thats understandable i cant judge ur situation when im not in it... but im very impatient lateley with age and ezxperience cus iv had enough shit of waiting and playing it safe, you have to be prepared to lose the girl to get her at times, its not un alpha to call her out on her shit its the way u do it, good luck brb trolling these forums but thought id offer u some serious advice

Thanks man, I really do appreciate your advice and you're probably right. Just to give you a little insight, we've known each other a few years and as I said earlier nothing more than a few hookups. No f-close ever. But we talk a lot. She has told me before she likes me and she always says I'm a great guy and her friends have told me before that she really likes me but then she is always saying stuff on myspace like "When will I find a good guy?" and "I don't want to be single anymore" and it's kind of disheartening. When we were hooking up for a while I wanted to make it a more serious thing but I really blew it and scared her off by being too needy and showering her with gifts and shit. Stupid on my part I know. So nowadays I try to be more relaxed and not be overbearing.

But also, since I've been helping her a lot lately with some science paper she has to write she said that she owes me a drink when the paper is done and we should go out after it's done etc. So i don't necessarily feel like helping her is hurting me but then again in the end she'll probably flake.

Given that background what would you do to try and move this back towards hooking up and not friends?

Thanks again.