| Hey wrazor,
You're post was a bit unclear about whats happening first, your date or the rugby match. Or if the rugby match IS the date. But anyways, you can do this if the date is before the match:
If this is the case, then well you need to build up enough attraction on your date, for her to be comfortable with your touch, because when you go to the game, its obviously going to be really hard for you to build rapport there! So I would suggest using the Cube, or Strawberry Fields, or any other routine that involves her to imagine something(If you're not familiar with them, check em out they're on the forum). I always use these routines, and at the same time introduce kino, it works effectively for me. So yea when you do the routines, make sure you hold her hands, and look into her eyes, that builds trust and comfort. When you're going on the date, I would suggest going to a place you always go to eat, that way you can take control of the night. You'll know what's good and what's not, so you can order for her, or order one dish so its sorta romantic therefore statement of intent + comfort building. Ordering a shared dessert can be very good as well. Plus you may know the staff there, that is a DHV. So yea, if you have the date first, then all the canned routines on this site are perfect, since they are tried and tested. Just make sure you memorize them properly. After the meal you can continue the kino escalation by holding her hand when you're walking, or arm in arm. If her grip is lose, then just say "Okay you're losing me!"(in a joking manner) and move her hand away, then just be normal and continue with your stories since you say you're a charming guy and can hold the conversation, but don't talk with as much enthusiasm, if she has enjoyed your company she'll associate the warm feeling she's had all night with the kino, and then she'll want to touch you. If she doesn't do that, then try escalating kino again and become more passionate about the stories. When you do all the kino escalation, make sure you don't make it obvious that you're more interesting when you're touching her. Do it slyly, and make her "realize" that herself. If it fails the second time, then don't push it, wait for the next date to try again.
If you do all this, when you go to the game, you can easily have her wrap her arm around yours when you both are watching. And pay attention to her, but pay attention to the game as well. Maybe pay a little more attention to the game, so that when you guys talk, she'll have to initiate the conversation. The entire time you're talking to her, no matter if its the date or the game or wherever, maintain eye contact, and if you're not running a routine, then connect on another level so she can trust you. Also, for stories, don't lie. Tell the truth, you may have to shield some things or over express other, but its MUCH easier to have a conversation if you're not trying to remember a pre-written story. Be original when you talk about stuff that happened, and make sure that when you're talking, you are the only one talking.
I hope that helped you out. As I said if you're looking for routines or still want to used the DHV stories that are canned, then just search this forum.
Good luck dude! Hope to see a positive field report soon!
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