| Knowing a girl for 2 years before pulling a move is not unheard of... slightly unusual, but not unheard of. This does sound like case of oneitis, but if you promise that you aren't obcessed, then our advice may be able to help you.
To easier explain how to turn a 2-year friendship into a relationship, I will share with you a recent conquest (about 2 months ago). I believe I posted about this before... but only the long-time members might recognize it.
Ok. Like you, I had a friend of 2 years. Actually, it was a little over 1 1/2 years, but that is irrelevant. We have never dated or considered it. I have always thought she was gorgeous (she is an HB9), but never considered her more than a friend due to a previous relationship with someone she knew. So- this past summer, after being far enough into the community to realize what to do- I decided that there is a huge possibility here... for more than just a hook-up.
She came over and as soon as she walked in, I gave immediate kino. This was not "friend" kino nor was it "perv" kino. I simply gave small touches, like squeezing her wrist or standing next to her with my hand on the small of her back (this means the lower back above the bootie). The entire night, we traded kino. She played every kino move back with her own kino.
My next move was to play a boyfriend-destroyer with NLP. She has a boyfriend and I saw that this would hinder any future I could create. So, after she got off the phone with him (when he called, we were in the middle of massive kino), and luckily for me, he kept calling to check on her. This was easy for me to play a boyfriend-destroyer by simply lowering his value by commenting on his lack of trust in her and I slipped the word "smothering". When I said the word smothering, that seemed to be the trigger word for her to open up all the problems that he was causing. So, I used NLP while describing "the way a boyfriend should be". After a while of DHV for me, we decided that it was getting late and we should be getting to sleep. As we were saying this, I saw that she was not pleased with the night ending, so I said "Hey, you know, you don't have to sleep on the couch. Come and stay in my bed. The bed is gigantic and we could sleep on opposite sides and not even be able to reach each other! (I said this to make her feel more comfortable and less threatened). But, by this time, she was just looking for an excuse. So we got into bed and started cuddling and talking about what the "ideal" life would be... again, I used a boyfriend-destroyer and DHV. Then, I playfully negged her and kino'd her side, which she found ticklish, so she started wrestling with me. From here, I pinned her arms above her head on my bed and put her face an inch from mine.
She asked "What are you thinking?" In a subtle way, I responded, "Something I shouldn't since you have a boyfriend" and moved away from her face a little. This was my version of Style's LMR destroyer. As soon as I moved away, she moved her face as close to mine as I put it before, and said "No, tell me..." From here, I knew it had worked. So I grazed her lips with mine and then pulled away again saying "This shouldn't happen". From here, she pounced on me. And that was that. A 2 year friendship turned more. Boom.
Now, you can use any of these, but when gaming someone who knows you previously, it is more difficult because not only do you have to game them, but you have to shatter their previous mental image of you. So, you have to massively DHV yourself while not DLVing them. Kino is key. That will make it or break it. If you want to break free of LJBF, you have to show your intent immediately. Then game on.
If you have any questions, let me know. This is a slightly abridged version of the night. Let me know what you need.
-Apollo
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