| Of all of the girls I have fallen hard for - who I could not get out of my mind despite my best intentions - all of them have done this: They should show an initial spark of interest and attention, they would increase this until it would be obvious they were very interested, and then, suddenly - all the signs of interest drop away rapidly.
Hot/cold, pull/push.
Holy jumping fucking shitballs. Excuse my language. It's insanely powerful psychologically. I have made women fall in love with me through using this - mostly unconsciously, sometimes consciously.
When it happens to me, as much as I understand the logical psychological processes of how this works, it's almost impossible not to think about the girl more.
You're automatically thinking about her more! Why is she ignoring me? What did I do wrong? Is she talking to another guy? I'll ignore her back! That'll teach her! And so on.
Here's an example of the last time this happened: a girl I know liked me, but I can honestly say I'd rather have a tug than bang her - she was a bit fat, probably not great in bed, not my type, didn't really like her personality.
Fine. Well, she went from showing strong interest to suddenly zero. She would not return texts - at all. Then I completely lost contact with her. Initially I didn't care.
But I started thinking about her more and more...and more. And to this day, it annoys me a little. If I had the chance now I'd BANG HER ALL FUCKING NIGHT LONG!
But that's just one example of many. Currently, I'm waiting on a response from a text message to a girl I slept with last night. She usually responds instantly, but it's been a few hours now and she's starting to play on my mind. _________________ The “Four Fs” are the four basic drives that animals (including humans) are evolutionarily adapted to be good at: fighting, fleeing, feeding, and reproduction.
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