ok for the record i am not the complete alfa male that gets dances in all the time. the thing is i have the POTENTIAL to get dances in all the time which brings me to my first point.

THE BATTLE WITH YOURSELF
the first and foremost thing you have to get rid of is the battle between u and your confidence. this is so much worse than any female out there in that club that looks unapproachable. u have to to take it upon urself to dig deep and make that approach. when i went to the club last night, most of the girls i attempted to dance with did dance with me. i was only rejected once which i'll explain later. but for the most part i disqualified myself from many potential girls i couldve danced with because of my approach anxiety. this is still a huuuge sticking point with myself but the good news is i know that is my biggest problem.

THE APPROACH
now ive been on so many forums looking for the perfect dance approach, and i think i kow them all. ive even asked female friends how exactly would they like a guy to approach them and they all said that they would like to be verbally asked. thats complete bullshit. i mean, i got 50/50 results with it but its really afc when you do it. its not sexy to them at all. the only reason they would dance with you is probably cuz u asked nicely..

-what you should do-im sorry guys but i know a lot of people say you dont have to know how to dance to succeed in dancefloor game, but to be that alpha male that everyone sees or to at least be just an alpha male you have to really have some kind of structure of dancing behind you. you dont have to be the best but if she sees that you cant dance that lowers your value to her aswell.

so..

-learn how to dance
-when you do, approach from the front/side. try to make eye contact. while doing this you have to be dancing. not try hard but maybe a cool two step or anything that shows u have rhythm and you can dance. DONT TRY TOO HARD. relax.
-smile
-if she complies, take her hand, do the spin, and there you go.

GREAT LINKS-

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7LcBgkzNWBY <--APPROACH DANCE
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=I4oNVIYs ... annel_page <--HOW TO GRIND

..just look at all of his vids, they should help alot