hey guys, cant find it on the forum already but when a girl asks your opinion on boy's kissing/whether you're gay or not etc, how do you go about not giving a straight answer and play her about with it?

Ive used the old line "im not gay but my boyfriend is" but dont know how to transition from that or they either keep pestering me to give an answer.

Nearly evey girl ive chatted to has asked me this same question and im at a loss on how to answer it indirectly

Tricky!
Depends how far along in the set you are, but if you're far enough along, then ask her to guess. If she says yes, kiss her, if she says no, kiss her. As I say, you'd need to be getting doggy dinner sorta eyes, or heavy kino. But it's just an easy access K-close.

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a couple of questions.

how are you coming off?
are you getting asked this regularly?
why is this the vibe you are sending, do you think? (bad english i know!!)
is it something you are saying?
doing?
wearing?
do you come across feminin?
voice?


i think you need to start looking at these things before you think of some witty come back to turn the question around!

This is something that happens to me quite a bit.
Mainly because I dress alot better than most of the guys that are on town, and because if you are gaming someone you don't want to directly hit on them, so they think maybe you like boys.
Whatever the reason if a man asks this question to me I just reply 'Sorry to disappoint you mate but no. You can't buy me a drink, get me drunk and fool around with me tonight.'
When a women asks however it makes things a little more difficult. I like Simple's idea. But I have been opened by girls with the question 'Are you gay?' and so going in for the kiss is not a good idea. Making them guess however is.
Although I have also been at a bit of a loss in the past when this is asked of me. I would just not give them a direct answer. Use the fact they opened you or are asking you this question as an IOI and then make them wonder about wether you are or not. Just continue with the conversation.

HB: Are you gay?
Giac: Are you Zorabastrian?
HB: Wtf??!
Giac: Because I hear that in the olden days they used to burn gays at the stake! (No idea if this is true btw) You are on your own little witchhunt arn't you? See her? (Point to random) I think shes a practicing pagan. I better let her know that she has to avoid you.

Not sure if it will work. Just made it up just now.

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Thanks for all the advice dudes.
But i dont have a clue why they keep on asking this question..I definately know its not my appearence or how Im coming across/talking.
Ill keep working on it though and try different responses to this question.

I'm sorry I'm new to this website and I was reading this thread and just had to respond. If a woman is questioning your sexual preference, why on God's green earth would you let them "keep guessing?" Sorry, but that just sounds ridiculous and I think it'd be better to be straight forward instead of having them think you're gay, this way you avoid falling into that "gay friend" zone, as we've all seen before. Give them the direct answer and change the subject.

its almost always a shit test......

with this shit test you start to lose your frame...

you have to re-frame it...

simple...

So them questioning your sexual preference is a shit test?

I get the "are you gay" thing a lot too. I usually respond "What... you think I'm THAT good looking/stylish/out of your league/(some other compliment) that you think I'm gay? What kinda pickup line is THAT???"

They usually laugh... this is my version of a reframing of the question, but your mileage may vary.

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Now THAT is a great reply! And I will definitely have to use it.

Thnx diapente

This wins!

Although that never happened to me before, a girl asking you for your sexual preferences could be a IOI in disguise, a way of saying "How dare you not pay attention to me?".

What I would do (if the girl had already established eye contact before).

I would walk towards her, slowly, and calmly respond with "Oh... I know what you're thinking... The best ones are either married or gay...". Then touch her chin and get closer, and just add "Well, I'm single!". Have a very short pause, keep looking in her eyes, and then kiss her.

Then walk away, saying "Does this answer your question?".

The reasons I'd prefer this kind of (positive) approach:

1. You don't just defensively say you're not gay. It means you don't come accross as homophobic.
2. DHV. Enough said.

Just say you are gay, and ask if she is a guy in disguise.... and hopefully, she isn't one for real.

I like this approach. I get asked quite alot, not because i'm outwardly camp, but I think it's because women aren't used to being talked to in the way in which we approach. Most AFC's wade in with the same old bullshit. Therefore in their minds anyone a little more intelligent and sensitive must be gay. This has been a sticking point for me now for a while. But think the suggestions in this thread will help!

What kind of pickup line is that?

Love it!