| To win the AMOGS, you gotta BE an AMOG. And no, you dont have to be a big jock to do this..so relax a tiny bit.
I used to be one of the most introverted, scared, scrawny, nerdy, sorry little bastards you ever saw. Seriously, I used to piss my bed until I was fifteen years old. You can imagine what this will do to a kids self-confidence, especially in highschool. On top of that I had terrible abusive parents who didnt teach me a damn thing about how to survive. The only thing I had going for me was my charm and my smarts (and apparently, I was better looking than I thought at the time).
I moved to Europe when I was 21 and I never looked back. Now Im the total leader of my pack, and I quickly take over in social situations, and I still suck at sports. I have scored hundreds of women, many of them TRUE nines and tens, and I am looked up to by all of my friends and colleagues as a serious force to be reckoned with, especially in the field of love and romance. Oh yeah, and I dont pee the bed anymore. (Sweeet!!!)
How did I do it? Its a little bit complicated to explain maybe, but it started the day I decided it was a waste of my life to be shy, and I really started to make an effort to go out there and put myself on a limb and RISK REJECTION (male and female) and just see what happens. Really, it was ALL in my head.
Now it was a long road, but the big difference from then and now? And I mean the mental differences, because the outward physical appearances are just SYMPTOMS of being an alpha male.. I am CONFIDENT, I am HAPPY, I LOVE myself. It takes a lot of time to learn how to be this way. You cant go around brow beating yourself or telling yourself you suck, or even comparing yourself to other people too much. Just concentrate on your good points, and work to improve them, and as well work to change your most negative points completely.
With time and practise, you will get better, and you will get results. You will also get positive feedback from the outside world, which further increases this whole cycle. Really thats what it comes down to, breaking negative downward cycles, and reinforcing positive feedback cycles.
For example, you work on your confidence, by any means... you get less rejection from women, which increases your confidence, which suddenly gets you laid more often, which increases your confidence, which gets you laid all the time, which makes you a confidence GOD. It takes time. There is no magic bullet here. But learning good game is probably the best thing you can do, I know its the best force in my life, even today.
Now one way to start laying out these patterns in your life, is to study up on what defines an alpha male. Read up on posture, tonality, speech patterns, etc... start trying to mimic them. It wont be real at first, but you will start to get a small amount of positive feedback, and this will reinforce the changes, and it will accelerate to the point where you are a natural stud.
Finally, appearance does help alot, so be healthy, eat well, work out, and dont wreck yourself on drugs, booze, and cigarettes. Everything in moderation. You will pick up good style as you go along.
And most importantly, never be afraid to stand up for yourself when you know you are right. Dont take shit from people, period, ever. You might want to just leave rather than picking the good fight, if it means not getting destroyed by some asshole, but you dont have to stand there and eat somebodies shit ever.
Once you get to the point where you are even slightly amogging, you will start to gain recognition from other winners. Sucking up, trying hard, all these things make you a tool (as you certainly felt yourself) and you will be treated as such. Instead you win them over by making the cool jokes (humor is huge, also with guys), by being smart (it gets more and more important the older you get), by having confidence and an air of authority that commands respect (you get this by never taking shit, and by leading), and by proving yourself with the ladies. Being physically studly is really secondary, tho it does help. Im pretty average I suppose, 6'1" and like 85 kilos, but I work and play hard, and it shows, and even tho Im smaller than the big guys, my behavior earns me their respect, not to mention they know I will go every last inch regardless and can pull my weight.
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