Back in my day I used to be a lot less confident around women, and still am battling that somewhat today (hey, thats why I'm here). But anyways, my first hook up with a girl, probably like a solid 8, was way into me, despite the fact that I was totally not confident. She said she found it cute. I was on a peer group trip, and by the end of the trip I was extremely popular with the ladies. A girl flat out told me I was really attractive, and at the time, I was really dumbfounded. Looking back, I could have cashed in so much more on this trip, but the point is, and I've always been trying to figure it out so I can repeat it: What made me attractive to them? Are there just some girls into shyer guys? I mean, while I really wasn't confident with women, I exuded complete confidence with guys and was liked and well-respected by everyone. I was fun with the girls, but they were all super forward with me, otherwise I definitely wouldn't have been viewed as anything more than a friend. Honestly, I wasn't even trying to hook up. The 2 or 3 girls I thought I might want to try getting I ended up not even really talking to, and a whole other wave of hotties came out of nowhere.

I mean, can I just be a pretty good looking guy or something, or does the fact that it was a peer trip of random kids all over have something to do with it to? I mean, those type of high school trips were all about hooking up. I'm now almost halfway through college, and since then haven't gotten much.
Obviously you guys don't know the whole situation because you weren't there, so you can't really fully and knowingly answer my questions and thats completely fine. I guess I'm really just looking for some commentary.

I think pulling at school and pulling at college/uni are two pretty different things. By the time girls get to about 17 they start only really going for guys that are confident. So if ur shy it's not as important before that age but after if u get a girl u've just got really lucky, whereas if u learn some PUA stuff you won't need luck coz you'll have skill.
Another factor in why u might have pulled regardless of being shy is that especially at that age, when you're in a group with girls on a trip or something and u look good, they'll notice it and have a group thing where they kinda obsess over u and every girl will want u coz all the others are talkin about u... but this doesn't really happen when they're a bit older if ur shy.

So what I'm saying is that from about 17 you've got to be confident to pull, and if u pull being shy, there's a reason for it being called getting lucky!

Hey, some women are into shy guys -- why? Well, because it holds a mysterious attitude. It makes them tries to figure you out. You know? How you tick and everything. People like to know how things work and why. Some people get frustrated and give up. LOL!

So, if a woman can't figure you out and that shyness is mysterious to them - it's actually good! I found out in my experience, if you talk alot and blab on and on then it's not very attractive. It get's them bored. Also, women tend to want someone to listen to them when they talk. If a male is constantly talking and blah blah blah. How would they be able to shut up and listen for once. You know?

Also, what's good about shyness is that it can cause the woman to think - well, maybe he hasn't had alot of girlfriends or it can telegraph to the woman that he may be a good listener. I tend to talk alot - I'm an extrovert. Also, not saying either a introvert or a extrovert is bad thing. It's good to have things in a balance. Do what works for you - don't rely on people telling you what works. A step forward in your own progress! Good job and I haven't been posting alot but it was nice to meet you!

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EXACTLY. Concealment - whether intentional or unintentional is an attraction switch for women. But a lot of guys like this have no confidence. not good. always best to conceal teasingly rather than shyness.

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Makes sense thanks. I guess its a lot different on a trip than in college too. If you're shy in college you're just not gonna get noticed. On a trip you tend to meet everyone anyways and overall I was a friendly, genuine guy, just shy when it came to women, so maybe I unintentionally seemed more attractive with that. The main part of that was, I wasn't on the trip looking to hook up. I know if I had tried to, I would have blown it, so the not caring about the outcome factor really does do a lot to your game, either intentionally or unintentionally.