I call this the Club Points System, always works, alwayssss:

The system is based on you rewarding her with points in a playful way. Heres an example:

KC(me): what're you passion about?
HB: i love watersports, Im really adventurous.
KC: i love that about you, 2 points for you! you reach 10 you win a prize!
HB: omg can you hint at the prize?
KC: you'll have to wait and see, can be anything from a coffee to a kiss
HB: oooo a kiss
KC: yh but you still got 8 points to go, i dont know if you're up to the challenge and i cant guarantee you what you want..
HB: i am, i really am


What the game does is establish that the two of you have a future. It also prepares her for some escalation once she does fulfill the 10 points. It puts you in a position of power where you judge her actions by how much they please YOU. Its always going to be there once your conversation seems to be petering out. For me it always escalates things as its often the first mentioning of a kiss close. You can always choose to abandon the game once things seems to be moving along nicely but when you're stuck at a level where it seems you'll be ejecting from the set you simply question her on her hobby and reward her with points for something you like. The system is a replacement of IOIs with a verbal indication that your conversation could evolve into something. Its an unthreatening and playful way of reassuring your position as a potential mate.

I have looked for this and haven't found it on any other site, so because it has been so succesful for me I put it here. I thought of it with a few friends so credit due to Girolamo for helping to develop and apply. Enjoy...

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Nice. It draws her in to your frame, where she has to validate herself to you. I like it, I think I'm going to give it a go.

Exactly plethora, plus its a passive thing with very little risk and alot to win. You bring it into the conversation and take it away, you control every aspect of this little game, dont over do it though. Its probably the simplest game to introduce into the convo. For further questions just ask peeps.

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Do you do this in your first converstion with her?

This is all done in a playful manner whenever she does something to please you. Its like the 'good boy' you give your dog. You couple it with a few IOIs and she'll be longing to please you to receive praise and bring out the playfulness within you.

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Yeah nice construction of the idea man, I like the example you gave! keep it up.

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i quite like that mate. if i remember to use it tonight im sure it will work fo me

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Coming back after a long time of dormancy (previously "here2learn") will use that agian

i do it with stars. 1-5 stars...
and i also take stars away sometimes when they misbehave...

or if they are about to misbehave but didnt do something really bad yet i'll just warn them: hey watch out... i can take stars away too!

Sounds solid!!!! And Sky's point deduction thing sounds good too. I'll try to keep this one in mind... sounds alot more playful and fun than the whole "Ugh, you're losing me here!" kinda spiel...

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nice but didnt David D come up with the idea of putting HBs on the points system for playful punishment/reward? credit where its due son.. dont call it the 'Clubs Point System' cuz im sure iv heard of this technique before.

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fair enough bro, i mentioned that i searched for it to make sure noone had mentioned it, i probably missed david Ds thing.. anyhows there wasn't an article on this forum for it and its a pretty playful thing

Kacy

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credit where credit is due, used this thursday to get a k-close