Hey guys,

I've had a gf for 2 years, then she broke up with me 'cause she 'lost that lovin' feeling. I haven't spoken to her for a couple of months now, except for some fluff talk on msn. I've convinced myself that I'm over her, and part of me actually is. Now her birthday is coming up this week. She didn't invite me to her party, and I don't blame her, if I were in her situation I'd do the same.
Problem is, I don't wanna go and do nothing for her birthday. What would you guys do? Giver her a call? Send her a card? Or maybe an ecard?
Now I'm not desperate or anything, this question is pure curiosity! Just interested in your opinion. Thanks.

Lol, doesn't sound like your over her to me

The only way to get over the last girl is the next one

Just send a "Happy Birthday" text message.

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Not a PUA just a girl offering my opinions/advice

You got one-itis... Best way to solve it is to sarge other people. If you would have been invited to her party it woul have been another matter, now I just think you should hang out with your friends and have a good time with other people...

The best way to get over a girl is NOT to go and fuck about. I've tried and tested it. The only thing you can do is give it time.

As for the birthday, I reckon a quick call would be alright. You were going out for 2 years, so obviously you liked each other a bit more than friends. Don't let breaking up spoil that. Make it a quick call though, don't linger with things like 'so.....what's been happening....'.

Get in there, give your birthday wishes, and get out. She'll appreciate it.

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move on brotha, so many other hbs in the world. once you start f closing, you wouldnt be worrying about what to do or get her for her birthday.

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Okay I admit I might have a case of one-itis. Trying to get over it, and I really am making progress. Like Difference says, it takes time.
You guys haven given some good advice, thanks for that. I'm going with the call Difference suggested. I'm just gonna call her for a minute or so.
Thanks!!

if u didnt allready decide i would say get her a birthday card but have it as a hope u feel better one. something completly random and not to do with a birthday lol

Lol that's a good one. Too late for that unfortunately!

My vote is to do nothing at all. She's moved on, so should you.

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Don't wanna sound harsh, but move on. Even coming on this board and posting this questions wreaks of AFC. Don't get me wrong, we're all here to help one another grow, but this sounds like one-itis.

The quickest way for you grow in pick-up is act based on logic and master your emotions.

Don't call her. She didn't have the decency to invite you to her party, don't DLV yourself by calling her or spending money or energy on her to recognize that it's her birthday. Better yet go sarging that night and hit on new women.

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Why do you guys see 'moving on' as 'completely cutting her out of your life'???

I'm gonna go out on a limb here and generalise: When you date a girl, it is usually because you like them MORE than a friend, agreed??? And then you break up, and you can't speak to each other.....

WHERE IS THE REASONING IN THAT! Unless it was a messy break up and you actually realised you didn't like each other AT ALL, I don't see why you can't be good friends. I became really good friends with a girl over about 5 months, then we decided to date for about 3, realised we didn't work as a 'couple', so just went back to being really great friends.

It IS possible to emotionally move on without cutting the girl out of your life. TIME and patience will only heal your emotional attachment.

How did the call go Roland?

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- Difference

You are both right. I know she moved on and I'm moving on, too. I should act based on logic and master my emotions. But as Difference says, no need to completely cut her out of my life!

I called her from work. Just a quick call, 'congratulations', 'get any nice presents?' 'have a nice birthday' 'bye'. She appreciated it and I didn't DLV.

Thanks for the advice!

PS. I just got a message from her, saying it was sweet of me to call her. Hmm.

sorry to hear man, I had a misses for 3years she left me for another guy... so now I wanna be a good PUA!!! she will get extremly pissed off if she sees me out and about picking up girls haha, I dont even talk to her anymore I deleted her msn, gotta move on!! Get bitches!!

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Hey Roland,

A lot of good advice already in there from the other lads! Luckily for you your one of the elite who are sincerly working on your game so your recovery should be accelerated. One must select the appropriate advice to use on a case by case basis. In your case, I would strongly suspect that your best bet would be to cut her completely out of your life. It sounds harsh and while in principle, remaining friends is a noble ideal, in my own bitter experience, women are masters of winning the post-break up game and you need peace and time to recover while gently working on your game and looking for little gains. Personally, after a three and a half year relationship I went down the friends route and just couldnt hack it when her serious boyfriends started to trickle in further down the line because at the time i was an AFC times ten! So, for your own sake, after a two year relationship, minimise contact with her. Be pleasant, brief and civil if she contacts you but dont pursue anything with her. Good hunting!