Hey fellas!

I did visit the pharmacy this saturday. Asked the girl there where you from? She answered " I was born here but my parents are from Fiji"
Than all formal conversation about medicine and I left reading her name on badge.

next day evening I sent her facebook request and she added me after a day.

Now following is our conversation please advise for further as it looks like I messed it up

ME
Sunday 2:17pm
Is that you who I saw in St Lukes white cross pharmacy on valentines day? lol
11 hours ago

ME as soon as she added me-
Is that you?? Hahaha

GIRL
Haha yes that's me

ME
Pretty woman. Buy me a lemon next time i see you. I luv lemon

GIRL
Thank you I don't think my boyfriend would want me buying anyone lemons

ME
You are funny
Have you ever done shooting? Rifle ..pistol

GIRL
No I haven't haha have you?

ME
I do it evry day
Will take you if you want

GIRL
I don't think shooting is my type of thing. But thanks for the offer

ME
Than whats your type?

GIRL
Being with my boyfriend...we don't shoot each other haha

ME
Hahahaha. You are funny and extremley beautiful
ME
Just a compliment

GIRL
Thank you, you're too kind. Hope you're recovering well!

ME
I could if you have helped me to




all this is from lastnight and I kindly need your advises as I am new to game

Thanks a lot
Scorpio11

She is losing interest. You are coming on too strong. You need to dial it back and when she talks about the boyfriend next, ask her how they met. Get the details, make her get really into the emotion.

I've found that this makes her go back and then get into the state he put her in, then when I change the subject the state is still there and I add on my layer of stuff. Basically stealing his success.

I don't know if this will work online though, why didn't you get a number and go for a date? Why are you chatting for the sake of chatting? Why are you flirting over FB with no endgame in sight? Why are you hitting on her and complimenting her instead of setting up some sort of date?

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hey zeolot.
thanks for the great advise..but what did you mean by i dial it back?
And another thing is i am pretty sure she doent have a bf.
otherwise why would she add me on fb and show such interest at first?

scorpio

Sorry for the generic pointer. I'm often criticizing people on here for doing that.

Dial it back, I mean you are pressing in too hard with the compliments and the flirting when she told you she had a boyfriend. It's an indicator of disinterest.

You would do well just to take her words at face value since this is the internet. It actually doesn't matter if there is or isn't a boyfriend at all. If she's lying she will just think up the story of her last boyfriend. Or fantasize an imaginary scenario. Either way she puts herself into a state of being successfully picked up.

Find out where they met and how they went on the first date, and then change the subject to something else. Or switch it to you having to go and invite her to do something.

Don't send messages with the intent to chat. Your intent is to warm her up enough to go out with you somewhere. End the interactions first, and go for the close every time. If she offers too much resistance to meeting up. Go get a different woman. This time get a phone number instead of a FB. Getting the FB may be safer and easier but it adds unnecessary layers to the communication. I never do that.

My stuff goes - number - text - date - attempt to fuck. If she lmrs I contact her the next day to set her up for another date the following week. If we get it in I won't contact her for a month.

After the month I set up another date. Then I won't contact her for 2 weeks. After that another date bang and she gets moved to once a week on a regular day.

Like clockwork.

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thanks for your great help mate but now the thing is

these ending lines of conversation lastnight

GIRL
Thank you, you're too kind. Hope you're recovering well!

ME
I could if you have helped me to


and she hasn't replied yet even she have seen my last line on messenger

Please tell me what exactly I write now....or just wait for few days...meeting physically? I don't know which days she work.

Please be specific and I would really appreciate your help

Regards
Scorpio

She has low if any interest. My advice is to go game other women.

If you insist on this girl... I would tell you to wait. About a week, then send her a fun message with a cute nick name in it like doc, or drug dealer or something.

"Hey Redcross, how have you been?"

What ever she says.

"That's what's up I've done xyz thing. What's your schedule looking like the next week or so?"

She will either tell you her schedule or resist.

If she resists then it's pointless and you need to move on.

I have things to overcome resistance but it's situational.

Like challenging her resistance by pointing out how illogical it is. Or teasing her about what ever lame excuse she came up with. If she brings up the boyfriend use the boyfriend tactic I shared. Or think about why she is resisting...is it due to lack of attraction or lack of comfort? Or both? Does she feel like you've failed some test somewhere? Too needie, not enough value? Then calibrate the conversation to fix the specific issue, and try again. You have to get the date on this interaction or the prospects become nearly impossible.

She could just simply be unavailable and you need to move on. She could have added you to FB just to be friendly. Drop getting FB closes.

If she tells you her schedule pick out a day she said she was free and invite her to something.

After she agrees get her phone number so you can contact her an hour before the meet up to make sure she doesn't try and flake.

Try to avoid inviting her out to something on the weekend.

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Here's what I think.
Where this interaction went wrong was where it began - in the pharmacy, not on facebook. I have a feeling you didn't show sexual interest in the pharmacy. I bet you didn't kino and you didn't flirt.

Fudge_88 gave you some good advice there.

Send her a message and just be honest. Say "hey Jenny, please excuse me. I came on a little too strong. I just think you're adorable. I wanted to get to know you more in person. How about some coffee?"

Something along those lines.

Maybe she does have a boyfriend and she's loyal even if your game is good. Who knows?

If it doesn't work, move on.

Here is a list of your mistakes:

- Stalking for a girl on facebook because you didn't have the balls to ask for her number in the pharmacy. Always go for the number. Facebook is a waste of time and gives you more chances to fuck up. Use SPAM if you must and if you suck at phone calls.

- Your messaging style on facebook was too jokey which showed your fear of rejection. You say something serious, then say hahaha to soften what you just said, which breaks tension and shows you are not confident in what you're saying. As a general rule, delete "haha" / "hahaha" from your vocabulary completely. Don't use things like "OMG" or any other girlspeak. You should be a calm, collected masculine man, not an eager teenage boy who is easily amused and easily shocked.

- Your compliment was generic and lame. If you must compliment, choose something unique that only you have noticed about her.

Don't pursue this girl. She's not interested at all. Well done for speaking to her. You're already better than most guys. But learn from your mistakes. Move on to the next girl.

hey fellas

First of all..a big thanks to all of you

@ FUDGE

I really appreciate your help and time mate.
I will follow your advise and wait for a week but I wan't to tell you that her interest doesn't really matter for me...and that why I am here on PUA. I want to get her mate.

Cheers
Scorpio




@ pickupeasy

No mate it's not that I wanted her at first stage really but thn when i left pharmacy I felt to game her..and when I returned to buy some other medicine there was an old man sitting right next to her and i cudn't go further
and yeah you are right but if I say her sorry for my behavior that gonna make it even worst putting my self esteem down and hers up in sky..so I wouldn't do that.
but I appreciate your advise

@ hunter_foxe

Mate you are right about the things but all that hahahaha was real being drunk...I fucked it up being drunk and too open...I found out exactly what i did wrong next morning when i was sober..but didn't knew how to correct it back so needed you pros help and yes
you are right about compliments as well..they were generic and lame being in another state of mind

but I wouldn't agree about not pursuing the girl again. i try all the ways and it does teach me a lot rather thn simply quitting on her


Thanks again for all your valuable times

Scorpio

As long as you keep making excuses for your mistakes, you won't improve bruv. How many girls are you currently working on apart from this one? You will learn 10x times more from approaching and seducing 10 women than pursuing this one woman who you've already creeped out by tracking her down on Facebook, who has already rejected you and already has a boyfriend. What do you hope to learn by pursuing this girl?

Sounds like you've got one-itis mate.

This definitely sounds like one-itis.

One of the things that I see in the PU community that frustrates me is the fact that guys are always trying to fix a situation with one girl that they didn't properly approach in the first place or did something creepy/needy before day 2. OP, you're far better served by letting this one go rather than attempting to dig yourself out of a hole.

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god. that made me cringe. its obvious that your in desperate search for her approval. you don't need to compliment her. its better to have just a normal conversation with her and not tell her that she's beautiful. she needs to show interest first. then you can imply interest. i don't tell them directly i imply it. throw some push pull stuff in there. tease her too. let her know ur not afraid to joke with her.

well hunter and jack
i am working on none leaving this one...but mostly I am home after work and don't socialize much being drunk every evening which I love rather thn socializing.
but yes you guys are right

Cheers

Scorpio

It's more important that you deal with your drink problem before tackling your problem with women. Ask yourself, why do you drink? As long as you keep drinking, you will always shift the blame onto the drink every time you fail with women.

Take responsibility. Stop getting drunk or you will never be successful with women. And if you ever get laid, you'll have whiskey dick for sure.

to Dr. Spargenator
best reply mate