i got this issue of being needy half way through my game..im not jus talking about club/bar setting but all around..i met gals,got the number.. made few phone calls, texts n go on dates ..

after telling em im attached..they will shut off
i assured them its still ok..there gals who were initial ok with the idea then i got into a needy phase in my future advances..makes me look pathetic and drives them away

im asian in our culture its taboo to be seeing someone else when u attach..called me selfish but i jus want them to continue going out as if its ok..

any good way to deal with the needy behaviour i know attraction is universal..cultures and personal status dun really matter..

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Hugo Blackhart

I am a little confused about what exactly the problem is here. What do you mean by attached? Are you saying you've already got a gf and when you tell the other girls that you've got one they get turned off you? Well what did you expect?!

Unless of course I've misunderstood what you mean by attached. I guess you could also mean that you're now "hooked on the girl". Of course you don't tell them that!!! Never tell a girl you like her directly. Let your actions do the talking. Only ever tell a girl you love her when you're asking her to marry you!

thnx for the reply..im pretty sure i wasnt so clear..on my issues..anyway what i mean was im in an LTR..so wen gals find out bout this they begin to back out..so lost another great fren..

anyway i found the cure for my needy issue..as i was reading other post..i guess i continue reading more post until i got real issue in my game..thnx again..

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Hugo Blackhart

Even if you have found your answer might I still give a suggestion. It's ok to want LTR. I want that too. But you can't just come across as someone who wants LTR. Just go with the flow is the best advice I can give you. Make a girl like you and become more interested in you (and this forum has HEAPS of material on this) then you will automatically establish a LTR with her.