I am wondering if the basic physical escalation we start with(starting with tap on shoulder, putting hand on shoulder, arm) should appear intentional or should appear that we do that subconsciously without knowing it because its a habit. I think if it looks intentional, then it would send clearer signal that we are interested. Moreover, I have seen few times I miss because of distance or very few times hands don't land that perfectly as I thought.

I feel that higher level kino mentioned in http://www.tsbmag.com/2006/10/17/a-step ... scalation/ can be/should be appearing doing intentionally as that tells that we know what to do and display confidence.

Gambler has some crazy cool examples of how to do this properly. I want to say its a PUA training video intro....let me see if I can find a URL for you

Somebody out there, you guys have seen it, beat me to it please if ya can thanks,

I've had much better luck making it look completely intentional.

I suppose unintentional stuff would work too, to a point...

The whole idea with kino is to build a closeness, and identify yourself as 'not just a friend' by touching... I don't know why you'd choose to do that discreetly, personally.

They both work, unless you're over-thinking it. Then, you'll look awkward and creepy.

Just go with it. Use it as exclamation marks. Touch her when she says something funny or something that surprises you.

stupid question. both. depends on context obviously.

2nd this