I talk to my buddies all the time about the girls we took classes with.

One time there was a girl, "Jess", was hanging out with us, and we end up talking about this HB8 on math class.

Me: "Dude Im going to pick up that girl...."

Girl: "pfff....that girl wouldnt care about such a loser, besides she has a boyfriend.....blah blah blah"

Welll this girl, "Jess" is kind of my friend, but the last two months, I have not been very kind to her. I have acted like an asshole around her, I mean, I dont even say hi to her sometimes. Maybe I dont want to be her friend, her attitude is shit, so I act like shit to her. So Its not likely that she is jealous.

I got kind of mad at her, so Ive decide to show her that I am not a AFC.

I know this is kind of stupid, and even more of AFC, but if I show her I can have whatever girl I want, my pride, and therefore my inner game would be improved.

Any suggestions accepted, except to succesfully gaming the HB8...I want a more creative solution.(Im gonna game the HB8 when I want, not just for revenge)

PS: I dont have any kind attraction towards "Jess"

DON'T do this! This is not going to help your game, because you're going to be so bent on this, that it's gonna throw you off, you're not gonna be genuine and your ill intentions will come through in your personality. It's the same as going out and say, "I HAVE to get laid. I CAN'T go home until I do." That's gonna put so much pressure on it, that most likely it WON'T happen.

So instead, get over it. Who gives a shit what she thinks. Stop being a dick, cause that just lowers your value. When someone is treating you poorly, don't start treating them bad in return, instead be polite, don't put yourself in positions where they can cause you trouble, don't rely on them, just let them do their thing and do yours. It demonstrates higher value and shows people that you are a good person, which is attractive. Another side effect of being positive and nice, is that it makes you happy and that will make you moe appealing as well.

Being negative, saying mean things (not negs), purposely causing people discomfort, are all bad traits that you want to stay away from. Embracing them won't make your inner game stronger in a positive way, it will make you bitter and mean, which is a turn off and will destroy your game, whether you feel confident or not.

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Thanks dude...I was getting a little too much on the "dark side" of the game. Doing this would make me a evil manipulative person.

Maybe she being so rude and negative, makes me rude and negative, and thats just not cool.

I thought that getting away with my "revenge" would make me feel better, but thats just caring about what people thinks about me, and I really dont care. I got mad because it was a mood breaker on my expense.

Ive been trying to read the "intentions" behind girls staments, Im starting to think that "Jess" just is crying for attention, so Why should I care about what she says?

Now, how can I keep my cool, and remain positive when such a bitter and negative person appears?

Just ignore her......

There's no attraction, she pisses you off. Is she worth YOUR time and attention?

She is a friend of my friends, so we end up kind of stuck together every once in a while.

Besides, I think she might just be lonely, so she would hang out with anyone just to not be alone.

Focus on your frame and think about the good things going on in your life, or things you plan to have happen in your life. Being in a bad mood is a choice most of the time and you can also choose to not let the bad stuff get to you.

Take a DEEP breath, then let it out, closing your eyes as you're breathing in and opening them when you breathe out. Think about the bad things and let them fuel your breath in and NOTICE, how when you breathe out again, they don't affect you, they don't phase you at all, because you are secure in who you are. Negative things sliiide off of you like water off a duck's back. Notice how when you open your eyes when you are taking that breath for the third time, that you feel FULL of confidence. Notice how the world is brighter and less difficult. Feel the positive energy and positive vibes inside you and project them outwards.

That's a good NLP pattern to run through if you're feeling in a bad mood. I do it often when I'm at work and having a bad day, customers yelling at me for mistakes the company made, or that I have to charge them to fix things. The key is to take it seriously and put the stresses in while you're thinking it to yourself. If you think it in a monotone voice, it won't help, but if you think it like it's written, you will feel instantly better. I sometimes count to 10 while doing this if I'm highly stressed, but don't do that if it's going to get in the way of concentrating on the pattern. Do it while you're in a good mood and feeling empowered. Toss some good music on and do it so that the positive feelings from the music and your emotions right now, get anchored to the action of deep breathing and the eye closing/opening.

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"The 'Brick Walls' are there to allow you to prove how badly you want something!" ~ Randy Pausch

~ Rye

Not to be mean man, but from your original post it seems like you need to balance your inner game in the first place. You were being an asshole to her, and thus you got mad at her? Don't blow her out for just answering what any girl who doesn't know about the game would say.

Maybe you misunderstood me, the girl is a pain in the ass. It is not what she said, but more of how she said it...so negative and rude. She is like that all the time, so I was an asshole to her because of that.

You are right, I need to balance my inner game, Ive got the confidence, but I lost the edge easily, mostly because of bad vibes of some people.

Maybe experience, and the advice from some of you guys, will help me see the things from a different prespective.

Oh I didn't catch the part about her being rude. But yea man, roll with the hits man if you get rocked back on your heels just do a quick counter so you're not devalued.

Something that might help is trying some TD plowing techniques to harden your edge, what'dya think?

Never heard about that plowing stuff...Im gonna find out about that.

TD stands for Tyler Durden...Isnt it?

Yeah, Tyler Durden came up with the idea of plowing, in which you just run routine after routine after routine without even stopping or really waiting for a response.

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