There are various list on which move is an IOI but I've been through the situation that she send me a lot of IOI and when I go for the move there is a "NO". I told her I wanted to be with her and there is a big "NO" and "you are misunderstanding me". I leave it be but there still bothers me the point that she must be.

Any ideas on missunderstanding IOIs?

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In the game, no pain, no gain.

IOI's are amusing, but if you rely on them you'll find yourself overthinking and hesitating. You should keep the IoI watching to simple terms (Did she stay, did she come back, did she laugh) and take each one as a YES. The only NO's you should take are Verbal ones, like when she says 'stop'. Any other resistance is probably just her social ASD.

As a man, you must LEAD, and by waiting for IoIs you are effectively waiting on her to tell you it's ok(Which is not leading). Take 'note' of IOD's and other forms of resistance, but never use them as an excuse to wuss out on escalating.

Just my 2 cent.

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Two words: Carpe Diem

Yeah thats true. I meant this in a relationship way. I got the IOIs move on and when I went for a relationship, that was a "no" which makes me think that she likes me but don't want anything serious.

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In the game, no pain, no gain.