HI Guys,

I'm back. Got dumped AGAIN. No big deal whatsoever, it's not that i feel bad about it. But still, i wouldn't mind her to come back...

It's time we figured out a routine to re-conquest our conquests that dumped us, isn't it? It makes sense: We've invested time and effort and didn't get enough of what we wanted from the girl, right? As 'Players' we ought to WIN the game.

Now, here is the story. I met this beautiful woman, 2 weeks ago, who is still +/- in love with her ex-BF. We had a couple of dates, we kissed, we had sex.. it was fantastic!

Last night, we had dinner in a restaurant and she started talking about her ex-BF going completely crazy that she was dating me. (I don't know the guy, and he doesn't know me, YET) Anyway, he showed up at her house, said he wanted her back and bla bla bla...

I'm a smart guy and i read between the lines that she is considering to make it up with the ex-BF.

When we said goodnight, we still kissed... But my plan was to sleep together, but i didn't push that, given the info she gave me 'between the lines'...

I'll freeze her out, until i hear from her again... However, can't we come up with anything better?

Cheers, Bertsky

He has advantage over you because they have a shared history together, even if he was abusive there is some comfort in having that shared past.

Freezing her out won't do much but likely push her back into his arms. All you can do is DO YOU, continue talking to her if you like while creating options with other women. Don't make this to be about your ego, don't be a goober.

Thanx, n2thevoid

I'm aware of his competitive advantage...
But i don't have the feeling that i'm chanceless... We're seeing each other, next Saturday. It's not a date, it's shopping in the afternoon, with both her little kid and my young daughter.
Not the ideal situation for sexual escalation ;o) but better than nothing...

It's true that the shopping things won't lead into sexual escalation, considering the children them self are a distraction; however, it's going to strengthen the bond you guys have.

As the guy above said, staying away won't do any good because you're giving her Ex-Bf a chance to get closer to her again. Just keep it up with what you're doing. She'll choose you when she notices that you have shared better moments than she has shared with her ex.

Good luck