I'm not trying to put down using kino but a certain experience I have had has made me, well... sort of wary.

In one of my classes, boy x started using kino to a few of the more attractive girls. Boy x is a likeable guy and isn't too bad looking, but the girls looked very uncomfortable during the hugs, touches, etc. I later overheard them talking to themselves. They went on for five minutes ripping on the kid about how they are uncomfortable around him because he was touchy-feely.

I have a few possible solutions:

1. He touched them too much. (but he didnt really touch them that much compared to what ive read on here)

2. They were jealous when he touched other girls (which i strongly sensed was not the case)

3. He smelled bad. (which is almost comical)



can anybody give me an explanation so that i won't think of the talk everytime i touch a girl?

well you cant force kino on someone who doesnt trust you enough to let you into their personal space. But I hear u on bein unsure, im in a similar situation with a girl in one of my classes, im about to start out light and see what happens.

Kino isn't something you can just DO. You have to go about it in the correct ways. Approach people from the side and don't just latch onto people, you need to start out little and build it up.

I always read people talking about how they high five girls and it works really well, but I always thought it would be ridiculous and she would just laugh if I did that. I know, I know this shit works, but I still had disbelief! Last night, I was out at the bar sarging and I was being introduced to a group of girls and the one girl gave me this limp handshake, so I commented on it to her friend and so she shakes the other girl's hand and then the limp handshake girl had to shake my hand again to show me she could shake properly. So after she proved to me she could, I go, "Nice! That was way better. Gimme five!" and put my hand up. She fucking did and she was smiling and laughing and loving every second of it.

After that, I was able to put my hand on a girl's shoulder and rest my forearm on her without her minding. After that, I put my arm right around them and give them a squeeze and they squeeze me back.

It's all about how you go about it.

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thanks a lot. thats just what i needed