One of my jobs is at Starbucks. Every once in awhile is see people I know from high school. Back in December this HB8.5 comes in that I know, but only see every couple of months. I just discovered the PUA community at that time (first thing I read was dave deangelos ebook) I was able to get her email. When I asked she was like “Sure” without any hesitation. I emailed her a couple of days later. Something along the lines of

“hey,what’s up?. Want to grab a cup of coffee/drink?”

I already had some comfort and kino. Usually a hug and “hey haven’t seen you in awhile.” I didn’t get anything back, so after a week I emailed her again. Don’t remember exactly what, but like

“playin hard to get already? Talk to me”

After another week I still didn’t hear from her, so I figured hey I got the picture not interested. So last night I’m at work and she comes in. I’m outside the counter and she walks up and gives me on of those side hugs. She asks how I’ve been. Says she and her family went to Mexico for Xmas. She hasn’t been doing much except working. She said she didn’t have anything to look forward right now, except her family is going skiing sometime this year. She also asked when do I normally work

Ok, from my point view, the hug, asking how I’m doing, mentioning she doesn’t have anything to look forward, and asking when I work are all IOI’s. I still have her email. Should I send one along the lines of “hey, you said you didn’t have much going on, how about grabing a cup of coffee/drink” but I already asked her basically this same question with no response.

Should I even pursue this or move on? If so, any advice on what to say?

And one other thing, I read some threads about gaming in coffee shops, but they are mostly about gaming hired guns. I see HB’s all the time. Any advice on gaming from behind the counter?

Thanks everyone

I dont think comments and questions from the girl are IOI's, but body language u have to watch out for, u said the did a side hug? i picture that like 2 good soccer buddies with there arms over each other shoulders smiling at the camera after practice.

Sounds like she just want to be friends, but i am not there to judge the body language and responses so you have to judge that.

sooo what i was thinking is you should get her # instead of email, i know emails r easier to ask for because of their informality, but that is also a problem.
it could just be that she doenst even check her email, or one of u got the spelling wrong
so try to et her #, or just dp the direct aproach when u see her next time, still getting the number after making some plans.
i wouldnt personally send her any more emails, because if she is just not checking her email, and then later on when u guys r on better terms she does check it, u will look dumb cause u sent 3 of them 2 askin the same thing, and u nver braught it up that she did not reaply to them...

Ummm... Comments and questions are IOI's friend. It just depends on the comment or question.

Example IOI questions from a girl. Where are you from? Whats your name? Do you have a girlfriend?

Example IOI comments from a girl. Your kinda cute. I like your shirt. You have a nice smile.

You see these are just a couple of examples of things I've noticed that are IOI's. any other experienced PUA will agree 100%

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I would say that when she asked when you worked was definitely an IOI. I would lay off on the emails unless there is a badass show or party that you want her to go to, a situation that itself is a DHV. Or just send a chatty email w/ out any invitation at all, something like 'you won't BELIEVE what just happened...' She may just be one of those people who never checks her email, big reason why I'd rather have the #.

No matter what though, make an insta-date and join her table when she comes back in for coffee. If you get fired, well it's just help to stop treading water and find a better job. Get up and throw your apron in the bosses face, tell him "fuck your coffee" and take the girl by the hand and walk out. You'll be a legend to your coworkers, and the story will last a lifetime.

As far as gaming across the counter, use humor. Whatever they order; act like it's the grossest most bizarre shit you've ever heard of. Then tell them you like their individuality and/or sense of adventure. Escalating will probably be difficult in the narrow window of time, so you may have to wait a few visits and be on game each time a particular HB comes in before bridgeing/#closing. Just calibrate, some will be ready right away.

Good Luck, Hope this helps.