I lost my ex gf after 8 months of being together. I had no PUA experience and not much game to speak of. I lost her to another guy who was in her powerful social circle in college frat/sorority life. I am out of college and have a career.

I've been no contact with her for a month now because I was devastated after the break up mainly. She claimed we were getting back together several times and even started sleeping with me again, then in the end, she finally slept with the other guy and started a relationship. (This was a 3 month drawn out process where I was her safety net). So I just started ignoring. I was also frustrated with myself at how weak I acted, basically begging her to come back. Things I know are mistakes now after reading PU material.

Their new relationship is about 3 months in now. She claims she loves him on facebook. I have ignored all her texts for about 2 months now. Even ones at 130AM and texts like "I thought we were going to be friends."

I did really love her. All the girls I've picked up or dated since her just aren't adding up.

Is there anything I could do to break the silence and possibly cause her to lose attraction to her new boyfriend and re-attract to me?

Don't try this. Be friends with her and leave it at that.

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"The bird sets itself on fire… and in the embers is an egg. In order to do great things, you've got to recreate yourself again ,and you can’t do that holding to a glory or a failure from yesterday. "

I'm not sure why you would want too. I think your energy would be much better spent on a new girl.

I wouldn't even try being friends with her, its time to move on. The fact that you're making a living now and shes still in college tells me you two are in different parts of your lives and won't be on the same wavelength for some time. Try to find someone who is on your level.

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Pretty little girls, so used to getting your way. Along comes a man who challenges you, and suddenly you don't know what to say.

Been through something very similar and there are a lot of things you can do but what you should do is: NOTHING!

Bottomline if she liked you even a little bit as a boyfriend, she'd have come back. Granted she could be on drugs and her judgment might be impaired but you can't make someone love you. She has to figure it out herself with that brain of hers and it will take it's own time or it won't happen.

The only thing you can do for sure is well be a man. You don't have to treat her like shit. You don't have to go overboard. You just have to try to move on any way possible.. hobbies, friends, family, hookers anything. What I'm trying to say is, yes you love her but you have to love yourself more than her. That means when she's not around tending to your needs: emotionally, physically, sexually.. you have to replace her.. even with your hand if you must.. bottom line you need to realize with time.. everyone is replaceable and your sanity, your happiness come first and foremost. Even above that feeling of being in love.

P.S. just because she fucked someone, does not mean you need to fuck someone that very night to get even.. Wait, think.. and don't react. Fuck someone if you find them hot or whatever but don't do it as a reactionary move.

And this is coming from a guy who has your problem except I've got the girl now.. she keeps coming back but she keeps fucking others too - we have an "open relationship". I still fuck others.. but can I keep up with her numbers? No and I don't try. What I do show her is that on nights I want to be with someone and she's not here.. I'll find someone else and if she wants me that night.. she'll be dissapointed unless she wants to wait on my living room couch watching tv till I'm done with the other girl.

Basically she's turned nicer and respects me a whole lot more than she did but she still fucks around. Things are not perfect but atleast I'm not going insane. That's what you need to find.. a state where you're not going insane.. you're just living your life without someone else in control of it.

Best of luck.