This has happened to me twice now.. I'll go out w/ a girl like a restauraunt, bookstore back to my place etc. the girls always wants to stay longer and longer sends IOI's all night

This girl last night would not shut up about her ex bf's and kept telling me about he she misses the one and the other one likes her but she doesn't like him etc. but continued to IOI me especially after telling DHV stories, shes very much looking for a relationship she said though

Anyways, we hang out for like 6 hours from like 6- 12:30 or w/e and nothing happens.. we just talk.. I am constantly trying to escalate the kino but i dont get any IOI back. I make SOI's to be sure im not stuck in the LJBF zone. Like i said this has happened to me before w/ another girl we'll hang out for like 6-7 hours straight and nothing happen. For example last night.. when we get back to my place I was like "you want to watch a movie" and she was like "eh, lets go on the computer" so that what we did we watched shit on youtube and talked. What the fuck is going wrong? am I not being alpha enough and just making a move?

the only thing i can think of is im not initiating the playful kino (ie. telling her i hate her jokingly and giving her a hug type stuff) early on in the evening so when I get to it later maybe its awkward.

If you need more details of the story let me know.. I got to figure this out cuz I'm getting dates real easy w/ gorgeous girls but they aren't going anywhere.

Whats this girl talk to you about anyways? Just her ex boyfriends and how she wants them? Maybe you've been coming on to strong for her and you need to slow things a bit.

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let me explain.. a couple nights ago a bunch of my friends and I went out bowling and she was my one friends date.. i was drinking and when i drink im way more natural (i hate to use that as an excuse but its true) anyway I ran the cube on her that really got her hooked i was amazed. Then later on she was really into me and I was feeling her.. but didn't do anything cuz it was my friends date. Hes then said he wasn't interested in her and shes not interested in him that was both made clear so she called me up yesterday to hang out.. we talked about a ton of stuff but i think she just broke up w/ her ex not tooo long ago so its still fresh on her mind. I've been there before so i know what its like and its like all you really want to talk about. So it kept coming up over and over.. The way I see it is i didn't cut that conversation early enough in the night and so I became her counselor. I think I can def recover though.

You can definitely recover. It's almost impossible not to in this situation. I would suggest having more control over the conversation and where it's going to lead. If she brings up her ex, just jump conversations. If she continues to try bringing him up, you need to let her know, "Listen, I understand break ups are hard, but in order to get over him, you need to move on!" I know from experience that if a girl only ever talks about her ex, it's because she still has feelings for him. Infact, that will probably cause her to miss him and ignore the fact she's with someone better (YOU!). If she's really insecure, she might even end up running back to her ex. So like I said, keep the topic off of relationship stuff, just talk about yourself and get her to talk about herself. Play DHV games with her more. If you can get her mind off her ex, she'll only be thinking about you. Shalom.

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haha yeah she def has insecurities, she had a really small cube when I did that on her. The fucked up thing is her and her ex have been broken up for 6months now and she says she still wakes up depressed over it.. how unnatural and unhealthy is that. Especially cuz the reason they broke up was cuz she cheated on him. Girls are so bizzare. I know what she's doing, in her mind shes made her ex out to be this Idealisti perfect guy cuz shes not around him anymore, I did that for a long time too. Plus I'm sure there is a guilt factor involved. Fantasys are a tough thing to contend with and so is guilt. Truth is if I can fclose her great if not thats actually great too cuz my life will stay drama free. I win either way