So, how's work?
What do you like to do for fun?
Where did you grow up? How did you like that?

Do these questions sound familiar? I'm sure you've asked them during a pickup or on day 2's to fluff and build comfort. The problem is, these questions, and their subsequent answers, are BORING. Nobody likes them, they fill space, and they are, in my opinion, detrimental to the underlying mission of the PUA...to be unique and intriguing. I noticed this fact on my last few dates, and I was wondering what the problem was. I think I found the answer.

After rereading Juggler's excellent chapter in "The Game," I think I stumbled on something important. Juggler mentions that he does not ask many questions during a pickup. He makes statements that open up avenues of conversation. As he explains, asking question after question is an unnatural form of communication done between two people that are unfamiliar with one another. Friends don't ask a bunch of questions...they make statements. Simple stuff, but I think its a theme I'll be employing from now on. I've got a Day 2 coming up in a few hours (picked her up on Friday), and I'm going to make it a point to open conversation with intriguing statements. And during silences in conversation, I like to employ routines such as the Cube, Discovery Channel roller coaster, and 5-Lies. It DHVs and keeps the conversation moving. If they are interesting, I'll post my results.

-Esperanto

i used this question to get a opintunity for a number close.

hey whats your number maybe or should go (her interest) Together.

This i heard is evil well its NLP and some guy told me about it and didnt feel to good about using it on a girl.

Statement isnt that when you DHV? you also could neg when opening or when you start getting the conversation going You have to CONTROLL THE FRAME and then little by little make her qualify or make her put her input into the topic.

keep us UPDATED on what ever your doing...Artist

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I posted my encounter in lay reports. The category I posted in lets you know how the date went, I guess, but I feel very triumphant about how it all played out.

I totally agree on this one to many questions can dry up a conversation big time it becomes like an interview and chicks catch on.

I generally don't ask questions now either, as they are boring. Boring to me and boring to her. The question I do ask the most is usually "So what do you like to do for fun?" I generally follow that after I say something like, "Here I thought you were a fun person...Boy was I fooled" (playfully) When she claims she is fun, then pop that question and use it to spring a Day 2 meeting.