I'm about to freeze out a girl that asked me to hang out today and then flaked on me. SHE ASKED AND CAME UP WITH THE PLANS, not me. So now i'm going to freeze her out and i have some questions about an effective freeze out.

For starters, how long should I freeze her out?
Should I ignore all her attempts to text me during the freeze out?
Should I end the freeze out or should I wait for her to text me again?
Should I act like nothings up when the freeze out is over?
What are some helpful tips on an effective freeze out?

Thanks!!

Tell me why you need a freeze out?

She made plans with you.
1. she's interested
2. you're not leading, and she is

She probably had something to do last minute, I don't know why you're tripping.

This is why I'm tripping----

This is the second time she flaked, but this time she was the one that made the plans.
Two nights ago she texts me at 12:30 at night saying "FUCK GUYS!" and I was almost asleep so I replied jokingly "FUCK PEOPLE THAT WAKE OTHER PEOPLE UP!!"
She says "asjghafjahsgdkfjsgafskhj FUCK ME!"
I say "don't tell me that when i'm half asleep haha Wink"
The talk goes on and on and leads to her asking if I can hang out this weekend and I say "maybe, I work Friday and I'm going to the mall Saturday during the day." She says "well how about Wednesday(today) after school?" I say "okay I'll pick you up from wawa at 12:30" She says "okay!"

Then today I text her telling her that my final ended earlier than I expected it to and asked if she wanted to meet earlier seeing as she got out of class at 11:30. She didn't text me back til 12 and she said she was sorry for not texting me back and that she had to wait after school with her mom for a meeting and that she had to pick her brother up at 1 and she was going to lunch. I asked her "when we would hang out" She said she would let me know as soon as she knew and then I said okay.

Then she never replied so i texted her again at like 2:00 pm asking if she heard anything. She didn't text back. I text her around 4:00 and I said "are you there?" and she still hasn't texted back yet.

So I log onto facebook and I see she was posting and saying stuff on facebook, which means she obviously wasn't busy and that she was ignoring me. Also just to be sure I messaged her over facebook asking what the hell happened? And I still have yet to receive a reply.

I mean if she had something important to do at last minute don't you think she should have let me know at least?

there are differant times for freeze out's but a good rule is just a few days. If it is erious sometimes it is nessary to take longer. More detaisl would help.

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I can only speak for myself, and I think that's pretty fucked up if she truly is jerking you around and avoiding you. She might be avoiding you because she feels guilty and doesn't know how to face you. And if that's the case, then she's got some serious integrity problems. Now I don't know what you're full intentions are with this girl, but I wouldn't involve myself with someone who does shit like that; I don't have time for games. But lets look at the other end of the spectrum ( remember, you always need to see the big picture), maybe something serious did come up and she truly hasn't been able to get back to you for some legitimate reason...IDK. At this point you really don't know. but the worst thing to do is to sit and try to figure out what's going. You won't know until you talk with her. My advice would be to back off for a while. I definitely would't contact her anymore. I think anyone on here will tell you that you went in "needy mode" by texting her over and over again, and then messaging her on facebook. but don't even worry about that. what's done is done. just take rest in knowing that you did your part. if she wants to be flaky then that's on her. talk to other beautiful women...live your life..don't get hung up on one person.


much success

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If she flakes, you're not that important to her.

Simple as that.

From her text it sounds like she got fucked over by a guy and was emotional during the time she made plans with you. Plans she never intended to keep. Move on and see other women. If you happen to run into her and she comes off as genuinely sorry for flaking on you (even though I don't think she is seeing how she did that you to twice), tease her and get her to make it up to you. If she truly is interested, she'll put in the effort to redeem herself.