I've been on this quest for about a month to get with a friend I've had a crush on. The catch is I told her a while ago I had a crush on her. I used past tense, so the assumption is that I don't like her anymore, but my feelings came back, and now I'm trying to figure out to do with them.

one outing took us the mall. I've gotten her friends to like me, my sticking point in this endeavor is kino.

Ok this time it was her idea to spend time together. It was a distant friends of the family's baby shower, and she was going as a representative of her family. She really didn't know anyone, and asked if i wanted to go.

PLUS:I take this means that I'm someone that she can feel comfortable around. we had fun, ended up bailing early to go to this arcade across the street. we played games, took pictures, got a souvenir with the tickets. we had a fun time. it almost felt like a date.

MINUS: no kino again. well, maybe some incidental stuff, but dang it.

But what I really need help with are ways to respond to her comments about guys. Again she thinks me liking her is past tense. we talked about our relationship history and she wants me to help find her a "nice guy". also, she told me about how she's more attracted to white guys (I'm hispanic).

what are some things I can say to give her the idea that "hmm, maybe we should actually try being together?

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Sounds like you are stuck in the LJBF Zone. At some point previous in your relationship you missed you opportunity to kino and work the magic. She's asking you to help her find a guy because you are her friend! I hate to say in man, but I would move on! I see this question a lot on the forum. Here is what you can try though.

Next time you are with her out, you can try and pull the kino trigger. Escalate and see what happens. If you get the LJBF speech, I would back off, and be her friend since it sounds like you enjoy her company.

It's up to you whether or not you help her find a guy. I have helped some of my friends with this as well, and it built my social proof. Then when she met a new friend, she was like trying to play match maker with me. You help her, she'll help you. That's a better deal overall to be honest with you! Having her as a friend could be more beneficial in the long term if you play your cards right.

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Been around the world twice, Talked to everyone once...

Your race shouldn't be an issue, due to where i live I mostly game white girls. And I'm Hispanic (well kinda...Grandparents are the following: Chilean/Argentinean/Italian/French but I only know Spanish and English so there...) if your game is tight race shouldn't matter, the main thing is getting out of the LJBF zone which is probably not worth working your ass off over since you're doomed to fail and waste valuable time.

My suggestion to you is game other girls and forget your oneitis for now or at least try to not seem affected at all. If you can use your friend as a pivot so you can open other girls so at least the situation won't be so bad. Hell, tell her to be your wing. This is a false disqualifier and when she sees that other girls like you she may get a little jealous. I suggest gaming with her, maybe even tell her to act like shes your gf while you "talk to this girl", so you can now game both of them by starting kino with your "wing" and the girl you just met.

Hope that helps.

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Yes, my name really is Ray Casanova

"With ignorance and arrogance, success is assured."

i see the i prefer white guys to mean shes thought about u and her been more than freinds why say it other wise?
how you reacted would be the important bit, minor shit test i reckon. if you rwith her friends then thats a good thing, she could be looking for validation from them as to how far to take it.
play it hot cold go out and talk and game other girls, divide your attention and see her only when ur not seeing other people, if she wants more of your tiem you willknow and then know she is interested.

the LJBF zone is tricky - dont loose your frame or start acting just as a freind, dosnt need to be said but dont come on to strong either.

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I would hope that you aren't putting to much focus on this one girl. I want to know why she is so special to you? Why do you have a crush on her? Has she demonstrated that she deserves all this attention to you? With regards to building kino you need to just touch her casually then try the two steps forward one step back technique. This has to work in conjunction with you building the emotional state of attraction and interest sexually in yourself to her. You have to convey to her that your not interested in being her "friend" or emergency fuck if her life goes south. Take control of the situation.

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I thought of it as a minor shit test too. the conversation went something like this (note: she's caucasian):

me: that implies that you only date caucasians

her:well, yeah, that's what I'm most attracted to.

Me: Me too

I know it sounds like it, but it's not one-itis. It used to be in the past tense. but ill say I have alot of other things going on (see other posts by me). she's more of like a bonus challenge. If I can do this anyone can kinda thing. also, I honestly think we'd be good together.

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