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You keep talking about what all the other guys were doing. But what were you doing? Nothing.
You should have walked up to her, taken her hand and said let's take a walk.
Then taken her somewhere else in the club, up to the bar, etc.. Anywhere to get her out of that situation. That would have been a good start.
If you ask me you're focusing too much on criticizing other what everybody else is doing wrong, instead of what you should be doing right.
So it looks like to me you missed your chance.
It's easy to criticize and focus on everybody else. Focus on yourself, and what you're doing or not doing, instead. That's the key.
Reading my post again I can absolute see how you could get that message, I want to make it clear that I wrote the post asking the question what should
I have done. I know I can only change me and I guess I should've written it differently.
I love the to the point honesty though, so I'll reciprocate. Yes, I completely was focusing on other ppls problems as she wasn't my target. The situation frustrated me because I realized I wouldn't know what to do if she were my target.-
In a total epiphany I realized that some nights I don't establish a target, or a goal for that matter. Then why the hell am I out? Thanks for this realization, looking back many nights I realized I flirt with all the girls I can, but I'm only wasting my time and further complicating my life b/c I had no intention of even gettign their number. Tonight, I will
look at someone as a target, and
decide how far I want to take this.
You know taking her hand and saying 'lets take a walk' would work? That's great. If the situation were to happen again and she was my target, I will certainly use that.
Listen bro.. We've all been there. I was you too in my younger days.
Remember this. It's easier to get caught up in what's not working right around us, rather than in what we need to do to make sure what we're doing is what we need to be doing.
I call this problem solving on steroids. And most guys, especially smart ones have this problem.
You've got great problem solving skills. So you tend to approach situations from that perspective. The problem is? Their problem is not your problem. So even though it appears they are hogging the action, which they are, there's very little you can do to change that fact other than to take some sort of action that separates yourself from the pack.
Your problem is working towards and achieving your goals regardless of what 'they' choose to do. This applies to life as well. In the end you'll pull away from this pack and they'll still be stuck in their self sabotaging behaviors. And as women age they will recognize that you are different. That you're the man. Not like the other guys.
I'll give you credit for your idealism.
But then if your competition was better, wouldn't that also present another problem?
So be glad that other guys exhibit such DLV and AFC behaviors. In many ways it makes your job so much easier. But you've got to be willing to demonstrate it and take action. Not to them, but to her. Just act like you've known her all your life. She'll be mesmerized. And in a way you do. You know she was born, was a little girl once. You know she has dreams, aspirations, fears, etc.. And you know she's not perfect either. Even though she may look like it at the moment, and even though you just can't seem to get those visions of sugarplums and wild nights of passionate sex dancing around out of your head.
I think you should feel sorry for them. They haven't done their homework. You have.
Nope on second thought you shouldn't feel sorry for them. You should concentrate on picking out a target and rescuing her like a knight in shining armor.
Then in the end, you'll be doing the laughing.
And just maybe they'll learn something in the process too.
There you go, killing two birds with one stone.
You got to have faith. Faith that means as long as you do what's right, in the end you'll be the winner. And if somebody doesn't recognize it on occasion it's their problem, not yours. Just move on and find another one. It's your frame remember?
CHAT
