I noticed that I always pause after throwing the statement of intent or a compliment. Like I'm telling this story "blablba, parachuting, dude in a slippers in a plane, blabla", then making this little statement (like "I love your voice, have you sang in choir?") and after that for some reason I freeze for couple of seconds. How can I train myself to make statements of intent without pausing? The same with kino - I sometimes need to "recover" after kino, which brings a lot of awkwardness.

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I'm from Lausanne, Switzerland. People in Vaud and Geneva (and maybe the rest of Swiss), let's go out together!

i'm hesitant to provide advice on this because im against both of those PUA tricks you are attempting to smooth out but I will advise anyway.

Have some premade phrase or action that you have ready to use before you get to the awkward pause. I always advise people I'm helping that trying to eliminate some awkward behavior/idiosyncrasy is much more difficult than just finding a substitute behavior for it. So swap a destructive action out with a neutral or beneficial one.

Don't worry, this is not some "PUA tricks". For me statements of intent are just stuff I tell to stay in this man-to-woman mode of the conversation. Otherwise for me personally it's super easy to get back to friend-to-a-friend mode, which leads nowhere.

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I'm from Lausanne, Switzerland. People in Vaud and Geneva (and maybe the rest of Swiss), let's go out together!

Any advice on keeping things light, fun, and interesting?
For example, I'm at a get together last night and everyone has been drinking and this girl walks up to me. (we had a thing for each other before but we were both in relationships at the time) so we start some small talk but it dies after like 5 minutes. That shit is so lame.
I'm somewhat of a natural but i work so fucking much it takes a toll on my social life and the level of fun that i can be and I feel like I have to relearn some things.
and this is literally my biggest sticking point right now.
I'm fairly attractive, ambitious, I have balls, I have no problem going direct/sexual, but sometimes I just cant do simple small stalk shit. OR, I can't keep a conversation going and then it dies out.

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Have some canned material to say when you dont want to do small talk based on the boring shit she is saying that you are uninterested in. I have my own shit I say all the time to new prospects which I know works. If I tried to have a relevant back and forth convo based on the retarded shit most girls say to me id never get laid.