| These are MINOR shit tests brother! If they can even be called that.
Here's what I see...take it as you see fit.
Do you do that sort of thing to HER often? Things like, "I can't F you because I'm watching football."
So...what if that's just her sense of humor. Her trying to be funny with you because you do that to her all the time too? Like...it's your thing...She's trying to be cute.
Women think all backwards man, she's not out to get you ALL the time. Only some of the time ;-D
You need to stop thinking everything's a shit-test and trying to one-up her. By doing that you're going to get into this cycle of always having to be right and "in the lead," or always giving her that "neg" attached to a compliment.
I know because I've done this...and i surpassed it. I actually run away from girls now because I'm always getting hit on (no lie...).
There's a difference between, "Hey! Did you get a haircut? (Yes) Looks great, I like it!"
--And-- "Hey did you get a haircut? (Yes) Where did you get it done at? (Insert Name of salon) I thought so! My 12 year old niece got her's done there recently too! You must have gotten the same stylist!....Looks good!"
See the difference?
Try giving her a genuine compliment once in a while without the neg at the end. Don't take it back, don't joke, just say something nice and move on. Say it very nonchalant. Don't seem like you're looking for anything, or there's a catch. If she asks you...what does that mean? Just say, "It means I like your (hair, watch, shoes, whatever). No catch.
Just try it and see if you don't see a different attitude from this girl.
Remember...it's not WHAT you say to her...it's HOW you say it.
This is really important, I just want to illustrate the difference:
Ok...take the show "Friends" The two characters, Joey, and Ross - complete opposites. Joey is full of "cool" and confidence, Ross is sappy and insecure.
Picture this, Joey's out on a first date with a new girl, they just ate dinner, he's broke now, so he's trying to think of something to do for free, but still have fun, before he gets her back to his place. So when leaving the restaurant, he makes a suggestion and says this line, "Hey! I have an idea, let's go to the park and watch people." GIrl says, "What?" Joey says, "Just wait, you'll see what I mean...it's fun?"
Picture HOW he would have said that line. The girl would go and think nothing of it.
Now, same scenario, Ross is out on a date with a new girl. Same restaurant, same deal, he's broke and trying to think of something free to do when he ultimately wants to get her back to his place. So HE says, "Hey, let's go to the park and watch people..."
Picture how HE said that line, and how it came across. Kinda creepy right? I bet that girl made an excuse to leave...because he said it from an insecure standpoint and it seemed creepy. Same line...different context.
THATS what I mean by it's not what you say but how you say it.
I mean keep your pokey fun responses too. Just pepper in a compliment occasionally too.
A REAL shit-test would be her telling you that your waiter is hot or something, and seeing if you squirm and get all bent out of shape. If you remain steady and make a joke about it, you come out unscathed and you pass the shit test. If you keep dwelling on her saying that (which is very easy to do), and asking questions like, "what makes him hot? Oh yeah? Well...your best friend is hot too.." (one-upping her), you lose.
The ONLY way to always pass EVERY shit test, is to truly not care!
Work on your inner game and confidence, that's my suggestion. Then you can really not care because you are confident in yourself at all times.
Oh oh! Work some jealousy too! Shit test her..."Hey...is it just me or is our waitress super-hot?" That'll keep her guessing too. lol
sorry about the length!
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, you are not helping .