Long story short: Been dating this HB 7 girl for 8 weeks. Mostly have been talking through text and over the phone. Met with her for about 5 dates. we made out on the 3rd date. The 4th and 5th didn't go so well as she started getting more distant. She's been distancing herself and we haven't talked in a week. I think I just started getting clingy and AFC by giving her too much attention on the texting. Technically she was the last one to text but I've been initiating texting coversations mostly for the past 3 weeks.

I've been thinking of moving on and continuing no contact in hopes she would come around but I was thinking...I really don't care if I end up friend zoned by her, I've pretty much moved on. I was thinking if it would work if I texted her and had "the talk" with her and told her I think we should just stay friends.

Even if she says she feels the same, would it help any?

I was just wondering if this routine has ever been done?

I figure if I would end up there anyway, why not beat her too it.
If she does beat me to it tough I guess I'd say I feel the same and I'm glad the feeling is mutual.

Does this reverse psychology work?

Maybe a text like this:

"Hey (her name), I hope I didn't do or say anything wrong last week but I was thinking about it over this past week maybe it's best we just stay friends. I just didn't feel like we clicked that well last week and that's where we seem to be most comfortable since we still don't know each other very well.. I'd really like to stay in touch as friends though because I feel like we have a lot in common."

I have found such a thing only works in the "boyfriend" defense and only if the chick is REALLY into you. I recently did it with a girl that was obviously into me and said she couldn't because she has a boyfriend. I told her we just met at the wrong time (disqualifier), I didn't want to be the guy who said him or me (DHV that ALSO sets up that HE will be the one to do it), that I didn't want her to go away (IOI). There was more to it but it was carefully thought out by me and also GENUINE. That's the key. I had texted her that morning with no reply because the night before her bf's band had broken up and he was really fucked up about it. Within minutes she messaged me and we texted the rest of the day aside from a few breaks while she was at work with me "refusing" to flirt with her by reverse flirting. Telling her how I was going to look ugly etc. Just made it fun again. Called me the next day to go to Yoga with her and stayed the night.

What you want to do will just backfire. It LOOKS like an IOD but also looks insincere. Just freeze it out. You shouldn't put all your eggs in one basket until you are IN the basket for a little while and it gets serious anyway. Here... you're showing interest by feigning disinterest and more than likely it will be a "LJBF" scenario.

Hey im only new to this whole pua thing, but ive had some success without it. One the the key things i did before i discovered this was to befriend some HB's and go out drinking ect with them. I could have hooked up with a few of them and had it go nowhere, but having hbs as a friend is awesome.. Not only do they give you instant DHV, I get them to help to go in as decoys and distract the blokes while i chat up the girls.. Fashion advice, get them to do your hair, meet their friends, hook you up with there friends. I would forget about this girl as a gf, and befriend her..

Hope it helps.

You haven't moved on yet brother. You're into intrusive thinking mode and you're thinking of ways on how to win her back and asking for advice here if your strategy will work. In simple terms, you attraction to her is escalating higher than before.

Best way to do it? Do a David DeAngelo maneuver: Give her the gift of missing you.

Don't text or call her for a month. No replies even.

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