Hi everyone! So this is my first post but I need some piece of advice.

In fack there is this girl at college that caught my attention. I would appreciate any advice on what attitude to adopt toward her, what conversation subject to chose, when to ask for her number etc! In fact I need a plan on what to do to get closer to her so any advice is appreciated. Let me explain the situation:

This situation might be very common but she is a friend of a friend (a girl) and I know from my friend that she is single (unfortunately my friend doesn't seem to want to help me a lot ) . I have two classes with her. One in which I can not really speak to her because it is a team project and she's not in my team. In the other one, I have the possibility sitting close to her and speak to her (which I already did, so opening is done). Unfortunately, in the second class, I have a deadline because it stops in 2 or 3 weeks! She already gave what seem to be IOIs but I really don't know if she's just a smiling/nice person lol.
So I would like to know how to grow her interest in me and hopefully see her outside of school soon .

Thoughts

Personally, I don't believe that it's in your best interest to adopt a new attitude to reel her in. That is try-hard behavior. It sounds like you're new to all of this so my advice is to realize this is going to be one of many girls you are with in your life, if you continue on this journey. My point being to lower how important she seems to be to you because right now shes not. Assuming you and her have spoken to each other I'm guessing she knows who you are... name etc. Next time you have an opportunity to speak with her fluff with her as you usually would about whatever you like to talk about then tell her that you noticed she has a very positive energy and that's something you look for in the people around you. Tell her that the two of you should hang out some time, while passing your phone to her so she knows to put her number in.

I think that's your best chance and if anything you'll know where you stand instead of not knowing.

cheers

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Awesome advice.

A further suggestion is- i'm assuming that class thats coming to end has a final quiz/test/exam- to just ask her if she wants to study before the end of the term. That way it's a little more indirect, and if she declines your still cool. However I really like the advice above, and you should go for that if you feel a little more comfortable.

samex

unfortunalety there is not test or anything like that it's just work at home until may. But thx for the advice! In fact she's not a special girl or nothing so I don't have to act as if she was not important because she's not for the moment but I just think that she could interest me.

And thx trajan, I'll try this!

In the class you can't talk to her in, game every other girl, become dominant in your group. She will notice you being the alpha. She will get jealous of the attention your giving to other girls and she will eventually think "Alphack you "... be that guy who stands out