| The idea of Entering her spirit is from a chapter in Robert Green's Art of Seduction.
Entering her spirit is seeing things through her eyes. It is capturing her moods and being able to understand these moods and mirror these moods yourself. Robert Greene calls this the most devilishly form of seduction.
All a person ever really wants is to make another see things their way. They want to influence every one. Think about how many times you've thought that other people have been acting crazy, and how their opinion is simply wrong. By entering her spirit, you give her the opportunity to see her greatest ideals shine through you. It adds value to her and she sees value in you. That is why this is posted here in the comfort stage.
Now I want to talk about kino escalation. As the two of you become closer together, your physical touching increases and she moves from simply accepting your touch to enjoying your touch and wanting more of it. Here, you can pull back, or, as i think Mystery refers to it, freeze her out, where any of the slightest discomfort or tension she may have felt by your increased touch (maybe you were moving too fast and her defence mechanisms were rising) is far out weighed by the pain and sense of loss she experiences when you no longer give your touch to her. It annoys her. It makes her feel as if she lost something that was sure she had, and the next time you return to give her more of that touch she just lost, the lower her guard will be in responce to these feelings of emptiness she just expereinced. She'll want more of it, and will accept more of it.
What I think you can do to make a woman deeply compelled to have you is apply this same method of take away, or freeze out, to that spirit you entered. Remember, here you added value to yourself because of your flexibility to see things from multiple vantage points. She sees that she is rubbing off on you and it makes her feel like you are the guy for her. Secondly, she feels like she has added value to herself because of these feelings of accomplishment for communicating her interests and ideas vividly enough to you. She will be pulled in to this mirror you are holding up. And now, you take away. You disagree with something she says. You put the mirror away and her senses will spin. The value she has added to herself will drop while yours will stay the same. When you are ready you can return again to her spirit and she will be even more attracted to you now that she knows what it is like to be empty of your spirit or mirror. Now that she has won you back her value is raised even more than before and yours has for demonstrating your indepent mind and once again showing her that you can see things her way and you still agree. Mutual Points.
Robert Green warns you not to take this too far though. If you stand there agreeing with everything she says you will become transparnent and she will be repelled. Put it together nicely and her attraction and comfort with you will be much greater.
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