| I'm pretty new to game, just exercising my imagination and playing around with some concepts. I came up with this pattern, with two specific variations. Field-tested several times, and was received very well. I would love to know if these are actually already documented, and if not then I would like to hear your opinions, and suggestions on how to use them more fluidly.
Basic idea is when HB asks you a particular question, present her with two or more choices of answer. Tell her you will only give her that answer, and not the other one. Then whichever one she picks you present it as the "bad choice" and tease her for it. This achieves several things as far as I can tell:
1. You assert yourself and establish your frame. She gets to choose, but either way the information she receives is being restricted by you. In other words, you control the interaction (DHV).
2. Women like choosing things, so it gets her excited (good presentation important), and especially because she knows you are going to judge her based on her choice (qualification)
3. You tease her in response (DHV)
4. You create an air of mystery/suspense about the answer you *didn't* give (again, presentation is important)
Here are two examples that worked for me:
1. HB: what do you do do? (Girls often ask this quite quickly into an interaction, I noticed this especially when going to student bars. But as far as I understand, in accordance with the emotional progression model, we should not give a real answer during attraction phase. This is where the pattern helps.)
ME: OK, by day or by night? You can choose one, but I'm not telling you the other one because I just met you! (Or something like I'm not telling you the other one until tomorrow. I guess it's important to be light-hearted and funny here, main aim being to build attaction, and not come across as if you genuinely don't want to share information with her.)
(HB gives one of two answers):
HB: by day
ME: really?? you picked the boring option? OK, sure I'm [answer honestly]. (Now tease her for being boring, and it leaves her wondering what you do by night. There is a danger of this being done in a cheesy way of-course, so presentation is important)
or
HB: by night
ME: really?? cmon that's obvious isn't it? I'm standing here talking to you/I go out to nightclubs/chat up cute girls/etc. (again ymmv, depends on how C&F you are, etc.) (Now tease her for making the obvious choice, and it leaves her wondering what you actually do by day. If she picks this option, now you have achieved the "lighter repairman" effect, i.e. avoided giving her an actual answer about your occupation during the attraction phase)
So main idea is if she picks the first choice, tease her for being boring. If she picks the second choice, tease her for being obvious. Here is the second example, this worked even better:
2. HB: what are your goals in life? (I can't rememeber how exactly this question came up, it might be hard to prompt for it unless she asks it directly. This was maybe an hour into interaction)
ME: hmmm, short-, medium-, or long-term goals? I let you choose one, but I'm not telling you the others because I just met you! (same as previous example)
(HB gives one of two answers):
HB: medium or long-term (doesn't matter)
ME: really?? you picked the boring option? OK, sure I'm planning to graduate/travel the world/etc. (Now tease her for not being spontaneous. It now leaves her wondering about what "short-term" means, and you can play along and insinuate that "short-term" specifically means "tonight" and your plans probably involve her.)
or
HB: short-term
ME: well, right now I'm planning to find a nice bar to sit down and grab a drink.. cmon, that's hardly interesting, is it? (tease her about making the short-sighted choice, and now this leaves her feeling that she missed out on more interesting information about you, which you are now witholding.)
I particularly like this variation because you are not specifying the time frames, so you can use the same lines for short or medium term, insinuating that it actually means "tonight" and your plans involve her.
Anyway, as I said I've just been experimenting with this. Tried both a couple of times, and response has always been positive. What do you think?
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