What could she mean though because I've been seeing this girl for 4 months. Not many dates but we see eachother at work and spoke on the phone at one point for 2 months straight. I can tell that she likes me and I like her but she says to me that she doesn't know how she feels and "if it is meant to be then it will be"

She goes out with friends, apparently sees other guys(not sure what she does) and seems to enjoy telling me all about this and when I ask her where it is going between us she says she doesn't know. She says to me "it's up to you if you want to wait"

Wait for what, her to nail other guys before getting serious with me?? She was in a long relationship prior to this, but it's hard to know what she wants. She used like me cuddling her now this week she says I'm being to easy and it's boring because I'm acting like her boyfriend but I'm not yet. Sometimes she will right things on facebook like "she is ready for a new man in her life" etc. The thing is when she looks at me in my eyes she seems like she cares and is interested and even has tears in her eyes sometimes. She really comes across like she likes me a hell of alot more than she really shows.

She says....."I don't know how I feel", "It's up to you if you want to wait".
She means...."I'm not interested in you, I feel no attraction towards you."

The first thing I see wrong is that you guys have been 'seeing' each other for 4 months but have not had many dates? That should be a red flag that something is wrong. Granted, 'dates' are not necessarily a requirement in a relationship, but there should be some level of bonding. Keep in mind, there is a difference between a girl 'liking' you and feeling 'attraction' towards you.

Second...you spent 2 months straight talking on the phone, what about? The weather, politics? Did you use any of this time to build attraction? And why so much time talking on the phone?

She goes out with friends, sees other guys and tells you about it. That means you are in the Friend Zone and have zero chance with this girl.

She was in a long relationship prior to this but it's hard to know what she wants. It sounds like you are willing to wait around until she makes up her mind. WRONG! What about what you want? This girl isn't interested zookmaster, I hate to be the one to break it to you.

Have you read any PUA material? If you haven't, I suggest you do.
You must learn to build attraction in women if you want to be successful in the dating game.

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I agree with SiNfUl about most of what he said, especially that it seems difficult (granted limited information) on figuring out what she wants. From what I've read, though, you may still have a chance. You are either in the Friend Zone, as SiNfUl said, or are right on the edge of it, if you've been flirty in your conversations. You need to destroy that image. Be a little more forward, less wishy-washy. It could be that she wants you to step up and be a little more demanding, rather than boyfriendish. (If it's meant to be, then it will be sounds like a call to action to me.) Be a little cocky, just not too much of a jerk, and show her you can go either way with her, and SHE needs to be the one to put in effort.

HOWEVER! She also seems like a major ballbuster. Trust me, I've been there. I especially see that in your last paragraph. She pulled you in with cuddling, now is taking it away to see how you're reacting. And by posting that junk on Facebook, she's publicly tying to get a rise out of you, or support from her friends and may need more validation than she's worth.

In short, I think she's probably telling you to try harder and be more forward, but either way, I would tread carefully, because she may be much, much more trouble than she's worth.

Sometimes she will lecture me like she is my girl and flirts with me(allows me to put my hands allover her butt) and it appears that there is some kind of feeling there(tears in her eyes when we had a argument) but she has so much pride she won't admit it. We had a few minor arguments recently and it felt like we were a couple.

She has feelings for me but just won't admit it I think. I wish I knew why she doesn't want to meet me outside of work. We met with her friends a few weeks ago but we were not alone so it wasn't the same plus she didn't talk to me much. Last week she txt me she misses my face calling me baby and wanted me to go to the hospital with her. Then she started sending dirty txts to me at 4 am saying she was wet. What's going on?

She's playing with you. Don't let her. Freeze-outs, negs, teasing for bad behavior.

At the same time, increase her sexual comfort with you. You weren't clear on how far you've progressed but if you haven't kissed her I'd say it's not worth pursuing. If you have, escalate nonverbally, and tell her what you like (this is big) in ways like "It's so sexy when you bite my neck (or whatever)." People like to do things they're good at, so by teaching her how to be good at sex with you, she'll be more proactive about doing it (credit to Vin DiCarlo on that one, just learned about it)

She kissed me twice in the first two weeks. Well that was 6 months ago, now she doesn't seem open to it and I tried to Kclose awhile back and she put her chin down and blushed. I've not had many chances to do it, because I see her at work only(30 minutes before we start, 10 minutes on the train on the way home) and can never isolate. She kinos me like a guy would(touches my elbow or elbows me) and jumps from flirty to distant alot.

I think you should find another girl. This one doesn't take you seriously.

This girl is just working you over to make herself feel better and boost her ego.