hello, first of all thank you for just opening this post and I am gonna warn you that its gonna be a long post so grab something to drink
first of all little bit introduction of me to you guys to know me better
I am an asian guy who lives currently in belgium for three years now
i speak english, dutch; tibetan, hindi,little bit french
my looks is average
my high is average for an asian guy
my age is 18
i am not the poorest or the richest guy around but i have enough money to buy food, pay my rent
i am still going to school
at school i m not the most popular guy and I am ok with girls
compare to other asian i am not that shy but sometime i am too afraid to talk to girls and most of the time i dont have balls to talk to hot girls at school
i am funny most of the time but sometime i am little bit weird funny
i am not completely loser with girls and I had girlfriend before and i am also not a virgin until now i have kiss with only three different girls
HERE IS THE REASON WHY I STARTED WITH PICK UP
its been three years i have been in belgium and its much better than where i came from but its also not very easy coz people here speak like 2 language french and dutch ok thats not the problem here
when i first came to belgium i used to live with my father but then i decide to live alone coz we got some issues , my father is very typical asian(i mean no disrespect for any asian) He got problem with everything i do and he wanted to decide everything for me by that i mean my future job and my future wife and their is lots of other bad stuff happen which i don,t wanna talk about so then i decided to live on my own so i can do whatever the hell i want
i was living alone on my own at the age of 17 and its very cool and nobody telling me what to do but i was alone , my friend come visit me sometime since the day i start to live alone i was free and happier than before but the feeling of not having girlfriend is much stronger when nobody is around you coz before i used to have step sister when i live with my dad but now if i came home i was alone their and it remember me of having no girlfriend more than ever sometime i stay home whole day if my friend were busy
Even when i go outside and when i see couple holding hand each other it makes me feel how lonely i am more than ever
So i started the pick up even before when i live with my father i used to read books about pick up but i was not that seriouse about it so when i live on my own my life was much better but its kind a suck in other way so i decided to change it
i start reading books like mystery method, magic bullets, i start watching video and pua artist show and watch lots of video about pua like adam lyons and jon sin, mystery style and then i decided to take a action about it and start going out to the approach but it was 20 times harder than i though it takes me 25 days to get over approach anxiety and then i have problem with transitioning and i started to read a lot about transitioning and then i go out again but its not really working and slowly my approach anxiety also started to come again so i kind a decide to give up but then i saw the pick up artist forum and i register on it and start reading the forum and for the first time in my life i believe 100 precent that pu is true before when its not working i thought that pu is just fake and its only for goodlooking people but on the forum i read the post of lots of people who have been improve and it gives me courage and the best thing i saw was the journal of afcdaniel and that makes me decide that i should do it
so from now on i am gonna start again with pu and start writing journal like daniel and hope you guys can help me and i promise i am not gonna dissapoint u guys
i just need you guys to motivate and give me advice and tips
thanks for reading until the end thank you very much

Dear AFC asianboy,

firstly my respect that you have struggled with your father about your future. I think it is very severe due to his cultural experience. These fights are very important to devellop an own personality. Have you contact to him now? If you are still in this struggle I am sure you miss him and he misses you. I would be grateful if you two are reconciled.

I do not think that anybody has to motivate you. I think you are a strong boy, who is becomming a man at the moment. Just a note to say Approach anxiety is not so bad. If you feel anxiety you are also able to feel joyousness.

I want advice you to have fun by getting in touch with girls. You do not have to think plenty. You are ok and sophisticated. I hope you will enjoy your time.

Best wishes
Did84

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It is impossible to be perfect. You don't have to be perfect. It's a disadvantage to want be perfect. Relax and enjoy love.

My main advice is not to seek fulfillment in pick up. People are people, and the ones you meet through these interactions will be, on average, less fulfilling than many that you already have contact with. Read (or preferably listen on tape) the book the Power of Now. Find fulfillment within yourself (or take steps toward it) and then the relationships you find with pick up will be much more substantial and meaningful (and it may help your approach anxiety too!).

Good luck on your journey.